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how do i tell my dd bad news?

i just found out my 7 year old dd's best friend is going to another school this fall...they have been friends since preschool...this will break my daughters heart...i need help explaining to her...she is sooo excited for them to be together in second grade she keeps telling me...thanks for the advice

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:37 PM on Jul. 24, 2010 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • take her to lunch tomorrow........ private time. 1 on 1 and to the point.

    Answer by hibbingmom at 11:39 PM on Jul. 24, 2010

  • oh - have a pen/paper ready and enthusiasticly make a list together on all the ways they can stay in touch (phone, email, girl scouts, join a ballet class together, snail mail, maybe a webcam, etc)

    Answer by hibbingmom at 11:41 PM on Jul. 24, 2010

  • aww thats so sad!! my daughters best friend (theyre both 6yrs) just moved about an hour away a couple weeks ago...they werent in school together, but they were our next door neighbors and they played EVERY DAY!!!! my daughter cried and cried and cried :( but they made each other lil bracelets, that she still has on, they have written a couple letters to each other, theyve talked on the phone a few your daughters friend still gonna be in the same neighborhood?? if so that helps alot..lotsa playdates, trips to the park together and what not..i would definetly talk to her about it 1 on 1..

    Answer by alexis_06 at 11:53 PM on Jul. 24, 2010

  • I honestly don't know. But, you need to tell her before somebody else does.

    Answer by amessageofhope at 1:06 AM on Jul. 25, 2010

  • Just be honest with her. Let her know she can still see her friend but it wont be everyday like she wanted. Sorry mama!

    Answer by Alexsmom04 at 4:20 PM on Jul. 25, 2010

  • Tell her sooner rather than later (before she finds out from someone else). When you do, empathsize with her about loosing a good friend and suggest they plan a fun day together before she leaves. Maybe she can give her a book about being friends or a friendship bracelet (see some here )

    Remind her that although it is sad to say goodbye to friends, they can keep in touch and also that your daughter is such a sweet little girl you are confident she will make other good friends.  Then set up a few playdates with one or two other classmates.


    Answer by momjs at 6:07 PM on Jul. 25, 2010

  • Truthfully.

    Answer by aliceinalgonac at 2:08 PM on Jul. 26, 2010

  • I would talk to her one on one and let her know that they wont be going to the same school BUT that that doesnt meant that they cant still be best friends. That even though they wont be able to see each other at school that there are other ways to communicate with her.

    Answer by kgmmw at 9:56 AM on Jul. 27, 2010

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