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how do i overcome being shy, so i can make friends

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Asked by aidansmom1987 at 3:28 PM on Jul. 26, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Just put yourself out there, go to activities and try to be outgoing. If there are mom/kid outings or groups, join them. That is one way I have made a lot of good friends is through doing things where I meet other moms.

    Answer by KTMOM at 3:30 PM on Jul. 26, 2010

  • Well the first step for me was to realize that no one actually cares. Sure you don't want to offend people or have then think you're weird or something but even if they do, life goes on.

    Even if you live in a VERY rural community where everyone knows each other and gossips, there's nothing that can't be fixed with a move or with time (and sometimes if you just go off on the gossiper person that is making a big deal out of your behavior they'll stop).

    In 10/20/50 years, no one is going to know or care about what you said or did.

    Answer by Deathlilly at 3:34 PM on Jul. 26, 2010

  • Smile, ask questions to show you are interested in others. Practice asking questions in front of a mirror if you have helps you be "rehearsed". Practice saying, "Hi, I am ____" You can also practice talking about yourself a little so that you are comfortable with questions they might ask you. Remind yourself that you are a good person that others will want to know. Don't worry if you blush or get nervous........ acknowledge it (too yourself) and move through it. Others will know you are trying. Good luck!

    Answer by elizabr at 3:34 PM on Jul. 26, 2010

  • i want to thank everyone who answered and say they are all good answers, and im going to try to overcome being so shy.

    Comment by aidansmom1987 (original poster) at 3:37 PM on Jul. 26, 2010

  • put yourself out there! If you have certain interests, such as let's say...crocheting lol. Attend crochet classes or local crochet meetup groups, if you like a certain genre of music, go out one night to see a live band and dance like no one is watching....take small steps! i'm a shy person too. But once I get through the hardest part which is showing up, it's smooth sailing. Put a smile on your face, don't slouch and go to have fun!

    Answer by Owl_Feather at 3:38 PM on Jul. 26, 2010

  • surround yourself with people you know than work your way up go to social events take baby steps GL!

    Answer by Truelove77 at 1:16 PM on Aug. 5, 2010

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