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more kids?

how should i handle the fact that i am happy with my 2 kids and don't want anymore, maybe 1 more but not any time soon. but my dh thinks that now that we have 2 that he suddenly wants 7 more for a total of 9. i love our 2 kids, but really don't want anymore. we have a boy and a girl and to me, that's perfect!

 
nickellmomof2

Asked by nickellmomof2 at 2:36 AM on Jul. 27, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Hmmm I would say 'fine honey we can have 9 children---- when you give birth to the other 7". It may be he is on a 'daddy high' right now and not thinking clearly. I imagine once he thinks about the financial side of having that many children he may change his tune. I do think you should sit him down and talk to him, tell him that you are happy with the 2 children right now and are in no hurry to add to the family. I would also let him know that maybe someday you would be open to the idea of another child..... but you have no intention of having 7 more. Good luck!
    MizLee

    Answer by MizLee at 11:37 AM on Jul. 27, 2010

  • You just need to sit down and have a long talk with him and explain your feelings. HUGS
    sherribeare

    Answer by sherribeare at 3:24 AM on Jul. 27, 2010

  • oh no tell him. the cost alone should be enough to make the guy think twice
    MoMoFu

    Answer by MoMoFu at 3:51 AM on Jul. 27, 2010

  • If you can't talk to him about how many children to have then you need to think about your relationship. You should feel free to tell him what you want and that it's your body and you are the one that nurses them and takes care of them and it's ultimately your decision if you don't want more. The World Health Org recommends waiting 3 years before ttc.

    Gailll

    Answer by Gailll at 2:44 AM on Jul. 27, 2010

  • Oh honey, once he he hears you out and you crawl in his arms and cry maybe a little he's going to want to protect you and make you happy. Your relationship is always changing and growing, thats part of a marriage!
    cynthiaesquivel

    Answer by cynthiaesquivel at 4:38 AM on Jul. 27, 2010

  • U say no and mean it when u look at him
    mamaofficer

    Answer by mamaofficer at 10:36 AM on Jul. 27, 2010

  • in not bashing, but i think this is something that should have been established before you got married. there is a big difference on agreeing on 2 and then later deciding to add one more, but to add 7 more is a whole different story. if he truly wanted a small family then, its unlikely his mind has changed so drastically now. either he is going through some kind of midlife crisis or he wasnt being honest with you before. i would tell him that you agreed to 2 and that is what you have...that you would be willing to consider a compromise of 1 more, but that his idea of 7 more is out of the question because it is NOT what you signed up for!
    LoriaAnn

    Answer by LoriaAnn at 12:14 PM on Jul. 27, 2010

  • oh yeah, i have already told him that there is no way he's getting 7 more! i told him 1 more, maybe, but not right now. and mizlee, i totally agree about the "daddy high" and i told him that i think he's just going through a phase! lol! you just don't suddenly want 7 more kids. he says it's because he loves being a daddy and just wants to share his love with 9 kids...whatever. we have 2 to share his love with. i told him that if he wants to share his love to more kids then he can devote his spare time to charity and read to orphans!
    nickellmomof2

    Comment by nickellmomof2 (original poster) at 2:31 PM on Jul. 27, 2010