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Would you marry someone who had herpes or hpv?

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35yoamom

Asked by 35yoamom at 12:45 AM on Jul. 28, 2010 in Relationships

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  • yeah probably
    leksismommy

    Answer by leksismommy at 12:46 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • yeah, its not a life threatening illness.
    shay1130

    Answer by shay1130 at 12:49 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • Eeee... that's tough. Probably not. I don't know if I could even fall in love with someone with a communicable and permanent STD. I would never feel safe having sex with them and sex is an important enough part of my life that I wouldn't ever be really HAPPY with them.
    Ati_13

    Answer by Ati_13 at 12:50 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • That would be a deal breaker in the dating stage.
    lovinangels

    Answer by lovinangels at 12:52 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • Absolutely.
    beckie66

    Answer by beckie66 at 12:52 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • Many sexually active people have HPV and dont even know it.
    35yoamom

    Comment by 35yoamom (original poster) at 12:53 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • my husband said no
    leksismommy

    Answer by leksismommy at 12:53 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • you are probably right lovinangels...but what if you didnt know they had it until later in your relationship? Then you both had it anyways..then you may as well just be stuck together right???
    shay1130

    Answer by shay1130 at 12:54 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • Shay, it's not life threatening SOMETIMES. HPV can lead to cancer (which definately IS life threatening) and herpes can cause birth defects, miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal herpes infection (which is quite deadly). So since I would almost certainly contract those illnesses, I would call either one life threatening under the right circumstances.
    Ati_13

    Answer by Ati_13 at 12:54 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • well maybe i shouldve thrown the "sometimes" in there. I guess if i was dating someone and they told me it would be a deal breaker...but if i was already intimate with that person then it would not stop me from marriage.
    shay1130

    Answer by shay1130 at 12:57 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

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