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have your kids ever told you that you were a bad mom or a mean mom? How do you react?

My 5 yr old has recently started telling me i'm a mean mommy when he doesnt get his way. As a matter of fact he just told me 5 minutes ago because i wouldnt put duct tape around one of his toys that he broke. I told him if i'm so mean he can just go in his bedroom and think about how mean i am.. He said "well, your not that mean mommy" haha.

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shay1130

Asked by shay1130 at 9:31 AM on Jul. 28, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • My MIL told me my son needs better mothering. I hung up on her and didn't talk to her for awhile. That comment still bugs me.
    gulfcoastmom4

    Answer by gulfcoastmom4 at 9:33 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • Oh yah.. lol. Mines five too..she developed a tiny attitude. It doesn't bother me really, I know Im a good mom & so does she! =)
    SuperrMommyy

    Answer by SuperrMommyy at 9:34 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • I told him if i'm so mean he can just go in his bedroom and think about how mean i am..


    That's exactly what I tell my almost 4 year old. It's amazing how fast I become UN-mean. LOL.

    momjoy1027

    Answer by momjoy1027 at 9:35 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • I have 3 kids (8, 7 & 5) and I hear it at least 10 times a day. To me it just means that I'm doing a good job at parenting because my kids aren't getting everything they want! I tend to ignore it, afterall they need a way to express their feelings and if it comes out as "mean mommy" then that's what happens, I would rather hear that then have them hit because they're angry.
    colethky

    Answer by colethky at 9:35 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • Once each. I spanked them. They didn't say it again. It is disrespectful which I never tolerated. They are now 26, 23, and 15. They not only survived the spanking, but also grew to be fine young men who respect authority.
    jesse123456

    Answer by jesse123456 at 9:36 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • yes...mine's 2...luckily it was a phase, and she's stopped saying it...but she knew when to say it, and that's what bothered me more lol..oh, how i dread the teen years. :)
    mom_to_kenzie

    Answer by mom_to_kenzie at 9:36 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • My kids are 10 and 6. When they tell me I am mean or a bad mom or "I hate You" I tell them,Good,That just means I'm doing my job as a mom! I am not here to be your best friend.
    momthruivf

    Answer by momthruivf at 9:38 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • ROFL - I have two teenagers, believe me, I've heard I'm a mean mom a LOT of times ;-)

    When they were little, I would just tell them that I loved them enough to be mean sometimes if they weren't doing what they were supposed to do.

    Now that they're older, we have a joke about how being mean isn't part of my job description, but it's a fringe benefit... ;-)
    sailorwifenmom

    Answer by sailorwifenmom at 9:51 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • I SAY OH WELL .. AND IT DOESNT BOTHER ME THEY WILL GET OVER IT!!!!!!!!!
    imaeeyoreluva

    Answer by imaeeyoreluva at 9:52 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • Yes. I usually tell them to hire an attorney and petition the courts for a Mommy who just doesn't care what they do.
    kc932

    Answer by kc932 at 9:54 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

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