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have your kids ever told you that you were a bad mom or a mean mom? How do you react?

My 5 yr old has recently started telling me i'm a mean mommy when he doesnt get his way. As a matter of fact he just told me 5 minutes ago because i wouldnt put duct tape around one of his toys that he broke. I told him if i'm so mean he can just go in his bedroom and think about how mean i am.. He said "well, your not that mean mommy" haha.

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Asked by shay1130 at 9:31 AM on Jul. 28, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • My MIL told me my son needs better mothering. I hung up on her and didn't talk to her for awhile. That comment still bugs me.

    Answer by gulfcoastmom4 at 9:33 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • Oh yah.. lol. Mines five too..she developed a tiny attitude. It doesn't bother me really, I know Im a good mom & so does she! =)

    Answer by SuperrMommyy at 9:34 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • I told him if i'm so mean he can just go in his bedroom and think about how mean i am..

    That's exactly what I tell my almost 4 year old. It's amazing how fast I become UN-mean. LOL.


    Answer by momjoy1027 at 9:35 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • I have 3 kids (8, 7 & 5) and I hear it at least 10 times a day. To me it just means that I'm doing a good job at parenting because my kids aren't getting everything they want! I tend to ignore it, afterall they need a way to express their feelings and if it comes out as "mean mommy" then that's what happens, I would rather hear that then have them hit because they're angry.

    Answer by colethky at 9:35 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • Once each. I spanked them. They didn't say it again. It is disrespectful which I never tolerated. They are now 26, 23, and 15. They not only survived the spanking, but also grew to be fine young men who respect authority.

    Answer by jesse123456 at 9:36 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • yes...mine's 2...luckily it was a phase, and she's stopped saying it...but she knew when to say it, and that's what bothered me more lol..oh, how i dread the teen years. :)

    Answer by mom_to_kenzie at 9:36 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • My kids are 10 and 6. When they tell me I am mean or a bad mom or "I hate You" I tell them,Good,That just means I'm doing my job as a mom! I am not here to be your best friend.

    Answer by momthruivf at 9:38 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • ROFL - I have two teenagers, believe me, I've heard I'm a mean mom a LOT of times ;-)

    When they were little, I would just tell them that I loved them enough to be mean sometimes if they weren't doing what they were supposed to do.

    Now that they're older, we have a joke about how being mean isn't part of my job description, but it's a fringe benefit... ;-)

    Answer by sailorwifenmom at 9:51 AM on Jul. 28, 2010


    Answer by imaeeyoreluva at 9:52 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • Yes. I usually tell them to hire an attorney and petition the courts for a Mommy who just doesn't care what they do.

    Answer by kc932 at 9:54 AM on Jul. 28, 2010

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