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How you you survive family dinners?

So my mother is planning a family dinner tonight.My father is a JERK.I told her I would come.What do you do to stay nice when you don't want to?

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evelynwest

Asked by evelynwest at 12:58 PM on Jul. 28, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Wine and selective hearing.
    Niki_sd

    Answer by Niki_sd at 1:01 PM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • You stay nice.
    You might not like everyone at the table, but you also don't have to talk to everyone at the table. Be civil when spoken to, but you don't have to go out of your way to talk to those you don't want to.
    JazzlikeMraz

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 1:01 PM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • you may need to have it out with your dad at some point. Sometimes parents don't realize what jerks they are.
    lovinangels

    Answer by lovinangels at 1:01 PM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • I love family dinners, I would smile and nod a lot!
    older

    Answer by older at 1:09 PM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • Oh, I think Niki's got the idea!

    No reason to make yourself look like an ass just because he is pushing buttons... Kill him with kindness, ignore the rest.
    ObbyDobbie

    Answer by ObbyDobbie at 1:10 PM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • If there isn't an argument about SOMETHING then it isn't a true family dinner for my family. The main parties to these arguments are my sister, my dad and his sister. Unless I'm in the mood to be ornery, I normally just roll my eyes and go out for a smoke or decide it's time to go home.
    SpiritedWitch

    Answer by SpiritedWitch at 1:15 PM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • Eat quickly and leave. Ah, just like old times.

    Or you could do what my gg-ma in law does......she forks anyone who disagrees with her. So dinner time could end up being a cultlery fight. Just an idea. Besides, if your father is such a jerk, why isn't he the one worried about "suriving" dinner instead of you?
    isabellalecour

    Answer by isabellalecour at 1:24 PM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • Kill them all with kindness, ignore a lot, and be proud of yourself!
    elizabr

    Answer by elizabr at 1:42 PM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • How do you stay nice? By making a choice to stay nice.
    aliceinalgonac

    Answer by aliceinalgonac at 1:57 PM on Jul. 28, 2010

  • When I'm around someone I don't like, I'm cordial but distant.
    kathyartist2007

    Answer by kathyartist2007 at 2:04 PM on Jul. 28, 2010

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