On Tuesday my MIL passed away after a year long battle with lung cancer. Her wishes were to be cremated. She spent her last days in the hospital and she did not look good. My husband and I decided it would be best not to let our kids (ages 7 & 8) see her that way. After she passed we explained to them that Grandma was sick and she went Heaven. The kids understood to some degree, but asked if they could see her. When we told them no, they were very upset. So anyway, her memorial service is next week. I am not sure how to explain that grandma's ashes are in the urn. Any adviceAnswer Question
Answer by Southerncharmes at 3:46 PM on Oct. 3, 2008
Answer by EireLass at 3:48 PM on Oct. 3, 2008
Answer by shmorris56 at 6:12 PM on Oct. 3, 2008
I would talk to my kids in a calm way, and act like I don't expect them to get upset or horrified. The approach can ruin it. I would explain some people want to buried in a casket, in the ground so their bodies can be whole. Some people choose to be cremated, which is having their bodies turned into ashes, and placed in urns to be buried or displayed, or spread someplace special to them. It's a choice that all people get when they are no longer inside their bodies, but passed on to Heaven. But I would also say it's not so important where grandma's remains are, what's important is that she is in heaven. That's the true final destination.
Answer by McGregor at 10:33 PM on Oct. 4, 2008
Answer by Deb128 at 10:32 AM on Oct. 6, 2008