I Have tried every technique possible! You all say to not let him make us leave what choice do I really have when we're in public and people see him screaming to the top of his lungs and makes others think that we're beating him to death or something in that nature. Last night was the worst night in my life when he finally went down last night it was 10 pm! He won't go to bed when we try to set a bedtime. It's like he's in his own little world and forget what we have to say. This is something that we have just ran out of ideas. We try our best to follow through with our intentions of making him mind. The doctor has already said that he is perfectly healthy and that he just has a behavior problem. Everyone seems like we can have control. It is so bad that anymore control isn't an option. We don't get up and leave because of his fits he throws them so bad that he doesn't give us another option. This isn't long enough check answeAnswer Question
Answer by BradenIsMySon at 11:39 AM on Jul. 30, 2010
I don't think your child has a behavior problem, I think you have a parenting problem. I doubt you have tried every technique possible. You haven't listed anything other than beating. Psychologists know that the authoritative style of parenting is the most effective. You can go to google and read about parenting styles and why hitting and being authoritarian doean't work.
A good first book is Love & Limits by Elizabeth Crary. She has a web site called Star Parenting. It has a nice parenting chart that you can print out and put on the fridge. She uses problem prevention and solving methods.
Answer by Gailll at 11:44 AM on Jul. 30, 2010
If he is the only one of your children that has these problems, chances are it is not specifically your parenting.
You could try an occupational therapist evaluation for behavior issues and a developmental ped to see if there are any medical issues; the latter takes 9m to a year to get an appointment. If you are sure his sight and hearing are not an issue it could be that he has sensory issues; my son's behavior degrades in proportion to the number of people he is around--the more people, the worse his behavior. It can be really difficult to get people to listen when your child is developmentally on target or "worse", advanced.
Answer by happytexasCM at 11:49 AM on Jul. 30, 2010
Answer by chupachyps at 11:49 AM on Jul. 30, 2010
People will tell you to spank and use time out. These forms of punishments don't stop bad behavior and don't teach good behavior. Children should never be hit. Parents should be smart enough to parent their children in ways that they are well behaved and don't need to be hit. I have a 22 mo grandson that is very strong willed, active, and gets into stuff. He is well behaved and we can take him anywhere. We get complements all the time on how well behaved he is. He has never been hit or punished. I raised 3 sons that are very polite, well behaved adults and they were never hit, didn't have time-outs or groundings, or other forms of punishments.
To be a good parent you need to learn how to parent form books, classes, workshops, online, LLL, college courses, ect.
Answer by Gailll at 11:52 AM on Jul. 30, 2010
Answer by BradenIsMySon at 12:01 PM on Jul. 30, 2010
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