My dd was a victim of date rape and we gave the child up for adoption. It was the best thing for my dd and for our family. We do not believe in abortion. Even though I know my 'grandson' is loved and very well cared for, I still have this nagging feeling like I was giving away a puppy. Is that a natural feeling?
Asked by Anonymous at 9:14 PM on Jul. 30, 2010 in Adoption
Answer by Iamgr8teful at 10:30 PM on Jul. 30, 2010
Answer by outstandingLove at 9:17 PM on Jul. 30, 2010
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Answer by 4time-mom at 12:02 AM on Jul. 31, 2010
Answer by Sara.Robyson at 12:36 AM on Jul. 31, 2010
Answer by onethentwins at 3:32 AM on Jul. 31, 2010
Thanks, I know he is very much wanted and loved.
Answer by Joeygoat at 9:20 PM on Jul. 30, 2010
I would have liked to have kept him and raised him myself. My dd gave me a flat out answer that if I did that, I would not see my dd again. I could not have given up child for another child. I was also diagnosed with cancer shortly after that, so I could not have cared for him as I would have liked.
Answer by Joeygoat at 9:52 PM on Jul. 30, 2010
many of us that gave our children away, sorry 4time-mom that's exactly what we did, did so because we felt like we had no choice. I know 2 women from my birth parents support group that have reunited with their children that were concieved as a result of rape, and love them to death regardless. I am so very sorry for the loss of your grandchild. Adoption loss is a huge loss and very hard to deal with because there is no closure and unlike losing a child to death their is no sympathy and rallying round of the community. The fact that our children are alive and well doesn't help. Please see my journal post http://www.cafemom.com/journals/read/1317349/I_lost_my_child_to_adoption you'll see that your feelings of loss are common and that some people will never understand it.
Answer by onethentwins at 3:08 AM on Jul. 31, 2010
Answer by PURPULbutterfly at 9:47 PM on Jul. 30, 2010
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