my husband is so defensive that anything i get a little upset he starts a fight. i know why he is defensive, so i don't need help with that. some thing will happen like work will come up so he can't come home for dinner and i will get a little upset. i don't think that is unfair. i don't yell or anything. i just sound upset, and he will start going on about how we need the money and repeat stuff i know and understand. all he neededs to do is say sorry and let it go. 15 minutes later, i have put it behind me. i spend more time mad at him for what he says defending himself than the origianl thing that got me upset. i have tryed to tell him to just leave me alone for a few minuets and i will get over it but he still doesn't get it.Answer Question
I have no idea! Maybe my hubby and he were separated at birth!! Mine does the same thing, just let me vent for a sec and then it's done! lol
Answer by shanlaree at 9:54 PM on Jul. 30, 2010
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Answer by JGRIMMER at 10:00 PM on Jul. 30, 2010
This may not be what you want to hear but here is my take on it. Have you thought that maybe your husband needs you to be more supportive of him? Obviously, he can't help it when he has to work over. I am sure he would rather be at home, but instead he is having to make a phone call home to let you know that he will be home late. Instead of sounding mad or upset, how about you tell him that you understand and will save him a plate for dinner and to have a good evening and not work too hard. Once you get off the phone with him, you can then vent out your steam about him having to work over once again. It's a win-win situation. He gets the support that he needs and you get to come and vent about it on cafemom. Good Luck!
Answer by JeremysMom at 10:00 PM on Jul. 30, 2010
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