In a nutshell:
-Age 11-12 I was molested. Nothing more, still traumatic.
-Told DH when we were dating (2nd person I told). He was sweet and understanding. He thought that it would be easy for me to get over since it never progressed to worse (he recently told me his thoughts then).
-Twice a month I have a total breakdown (now DH understands that it's not easy to get).
-Had counseling, did not help (I'm sure there are psychological reasons for that).
-DH wants to try certain sexual things, but I cannot bring myself to try it (nothing to do with preteen trauma).
-This upsets DH (of course) but he is understanding. I've asked him not to bring it up, since not doing what he wants makes me feel like a bad wife, but he still asks.
-I've been dreaming of him leaving me since I don't meet his sexual needs.
-I feel like a bad wife.
-I can't get over my past.
-Should it be easy to get over since it didn't progress?
Asked by Anonymous at 12:52 PM on Jul. 31, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by aliceinalgonac at 12:56 PM on Jul. 31, 2010
Answer by outstandingLove at 12:58 PM on Jul. 31, 2010
Answer by rkoloms at 1:05 PM on Jul. 31, 2010
I think you need to try another therapist and maybe even couples therapy. You have to also allow yourself to stop feeling guilty, you are not a bad wife. We are all different and we aren't all comfortable with the same things.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 1:06 PM on Jul. 31, 2010
Answer by GoGreen6210 at 1:08 PM on Jul. 31, 2010
Answer by Moms_Angels1960 at 1:15 PM on Jul. 31, 2010
Answer by tryin2BGOOD at 1:16 PM on Jul. 31, 2010
Answer by chupachyps at 4:08 PM on Jul. 31, 2010
Answer by bjane01 at 4:13 PM on Jul. 31, 2010
Answer by Heathercurlz at 7:28 PM on Jul. 31, 2010
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