first off, let me tell you a little about my DH
he is honest to a fault (ex. he would never tell me any absolutes because most of the time they are not true, like you always make me laugh...he tells me you make me laugh most of the time, which i think is cute)
he is faithful
he always tells me that he loves me everyday
he doesn't drink really unless it's social but still not often and he doesn't do drugs
he has goals and is working towards them
the problems are:
he has ulcerative colitis which is a horrible illness even with meds, because it affects your life daily-this causes a lot of problems. it makes him tired all of the time especially if he is in the middle of a flare up and he never wants to do anything, go any where or be around anybody. and if i can get him to go anywhere he is usually not too fun to be around. just really quiet and pretty unresponsive
he also has severe social anxiety, he has meds for that
Answer by shanlaree at 9:34 AM on Aug. 1, 2010
I think if you two are happy and in love then it is enough. My husband and I do everything together but I know a lot of couples who live separate social lives. I have an aunt who is very religious and my uncle is not very religious, they do separate things. My uncle fishes a lot and my aunt does church things, they spend time together at home. As long as he is not resentful if you go out on your own, then you should be fine. Good luck.
Answer by lilysmom2607 at 9:37 AM on Aug. 1, 2010
Answer by laura970 at 9:38 AM on Aug. 1, 2010
I have a hubby who also has social anxiety. I think it's worse for people who have some sort of on-going health problem (as my husband also has, kidney failure). So I understand how you feel because I am also a social butterfly. BUT yes you can lead a happy life, we do. I have just accepted him the way he is...and he accepts me the way I am. For example, my best friend got married last night, I helped her with most of her wedding and was also in the wedding. I know it was really hard for him to come to the wedding alone. i know he didn't want to, but he did it. At the reception, he didn't want to get up from our table, and that's fine too. If he is comfortable there then that's his decision. He knows I'm going to be up and around talking and socializing. Maybe you should talk to your hubby, and let him know how you feel, and that you understand how he feels, and you want him to understand how you are as well. cont.
Answer by elizabr at 9:42 AM on Aug. 1, 2010
Answer by older at 9:57 AM on Aug. 1, 2010
Answer by gertie41 at 10:01 AM on Aug. 1, 2010
Answer by mmmegan38 at 10:22 AM on Aug. 1, 2010
Next question overall
Where can I buy an issue of Fit Pregnancy? I live in Manhattan. I don't want...
Featured Posts in All Groups