Our friends drive two hours to see us. We both have four kids each. We have one boy and three girls, then have three boys one girl. We were all friends in high school, but they don't discipline their kids at all, whereas my husband and I work hard to keep our home tidy and our kids respectful. Their kids tear through our home like its a damn jungle gym, they've broken expenzive toys, even my son's bed when he was little and never apologize or offer to replace the broken items. It's been four years and they've only gotten worse. They come stay a weekend un invited, then never offer to bring groceries or help cook or clean. They don't even serve their kids' plate at dinner time or demand they sit quietly at the table the way ours do.... Should I just tell them to stop coming around? How should we handle this? We never go to their house either. So it's always us footing the bill for our time spent together...
Answer by MizLee at 7:37 PM on Aug. 1, 2010
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Answer by Bmat at 7:37 PM on Aug. 1, 2010
I think if I saw them coming I'd grab my kids and run out the door, telling them you were just leaving... lock the door behind me and leave!! Then not go back home until they have left!! LOL
I guess that's not to nice... so really I think MizLee hit the nail on the head... that sound about right!! Good luck! ;o)
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Answer by BobbieJo286 at 10:31 PM on Aug. 1, 2010
They sound like leeches. I really could not put up with people who are careless about their own children. Unruly children like that do not have parents that take the time to properly discipline them a lot of times. The fact that you always foot the bill tells me they're using you and you guys should never ever let them drop by on you. Set boundaries if you must keep them as friends. But also consider ending the friendship with them because people like that are not worth being around. What lesson does it teach your kids to associate with people like that anyway? I'm sure you can find better quality friends in the future. But being alone is better then accepting crap.
Answer by SylviaNCali at 11:18 PM on Aug. 1, 2010
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