I agree with both of the previous answers. You are following your heart, and that is important.
For your family, try looking up some stuff by Erik Erikson and giving that to them. His first stage of human development, Trust v. Mistrust, talks about the infant learning that the world is FOR him/her, not AGAINST. It is some powerful stuff for those who believe in CIO.
You cannot spoil an infant. There is nothing you can do to spoil them, but when you get into the 2's and 3's, if you give in to their every whim, then it's getting to "spoiling" time.
For the record, no infant needs to "learn to cry", they come out of the womb with that ability. Self-soothing is key, but that is not about crying it out.
I hope you stay strong in your parenting preferences. Often mothers feel pressure to conform to those who have come before them, which is really hard. It doesn't matter what someone else tells you unless you ask for their advice.
Best of luck!!
at 2:35 PM on Jun. 29, 2008