I don't have a step-son but have to deal with this from time to time with my boys. Have you talked to his father about it? Is there the possiblity that his mother is telling him he doesn't have to listen to you? Could he still be trying to test you? In my case my boys have responsibilities that reward them with the freedom to many of the things they want to do (spend time with friends, have friends over, go to movies, ice cream with mom, family nights) If they don't meet their responsibilities in my house they don't get the freedom they want or the extra $$ to do those things. We believe that everyone is the house is responsible to help out, we negotiate the time line but bottom line is - those things need done. I don't try to control and expect things done right then, its common to get the huffy attitude, I just ignore it and remind them what they don't get if things are not done, and ask when they expect to complete it.
at 8:46 PM on Aug. 2, 2010