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Ug - I don't know how I feel about this...

My SO is 30 yrs old and goes to community college. He was supposed to graduate in December. All of a sudden he decided he wanted to switch majors, which tacks on an additional 2 years of schooling. I am ok with this, if it will make him happy. But I'm having an issue with where he will be transfering to... The community college doesn't offer a Bachelors in journalism, so he will need to go to Arizona State. I used to work there and I've seen the things that go on. I am uncomfortable with my 30 yr old SO going to college with a bunch of 18-24 year olds. It just freaks me out. What should I do?

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Asked by allfiller at 5:14 PM on Aug. 2, 2010 in Relationships

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  • if you do not trust a 30 year old man around 18-24 year ols
    then time to get another SO
    i am assuming there is a reason not to trust him

    leaving out some history in your post??

    Answer by fiatpax at 5:16 PM on Aug. 2, 2010

  • get over what you saw in the past. that has NOTHING to do with your SO. if you trust him , which you should if he is your SO, then it doesnt matter if he was drunk in a hoochie bar.

    Answer by sati769leigh at 5:17 PM on Aug. 2, 2010

  • Well darling... He's 30 years old, not a 21-year-old idiot anymore. Besides, he's got you; he's not a bachelor... Bottom line is that you're just going to have to trust him.
    Most men his age laugh at little stupid college girls anyways; it's why I married an older man myself, LoL (I'm almost 27, he's 38)! :)

    Answer by Kassey713 at 5:18 PM on Aug. 2, 2010

  • I think you need to take a deep breath. A 30 year old man should be able to stay focused and get a degree and not get caught up in the "college" thing.

    Answer by Cindy18 at 5:18 PM on Aug. 2, 2010

  • I think your 30 year old can handle more than you give him credit for.

    Answer by older at 5:19 PM on Aug. 2, 2010

  • No, he hasn't given me a reason to distrust him, I guess it's just my own insecurities?

    Comment by allfiller (original poster) at 5:19 PM on Aug. 2, 2010

  • I don't think there's anything you can do. He is an adult unattached male, and he will likely do whatever he wants to do. You can tell him you don't like it. You can tell him the reasons why you don't like it, but in the end, he will probably go. Over and over, I see young women believing they have the power to change the minds of men over whom they have no power. And I seriously doubt that this was a sudden decision. These are the kinds of things that people think a long time about doing. He just chose not to let you in on his plans until now. And if you can't trust him there, you can't trust him where he is now either.

    Answer by NannyB. at 5:20 PM on Aug. 2, 2010

  • Either you feel ok or you don't. If you can not trust him then I guess we know how you feel. the real question is what are you going to do about it?

    Answer by mmmegan38 at 5:20 PM on Aug. 2, 2010

  • you say he is 30 years old i think by know it is time to let him go.he is not going to listen to you yes your his mom and all but to make mistake he must learn from them.this how he becomes a man .i know how you feel i to have30yr old son. and with all the things we have taught them it is time for us for them to use them

    Answer by dutchcanadain at 5:22 PM on Aug. 2, 2010

  • He is an adult unattached male, and he will likely do whatever he wants to do....NannyB said ========================================================================
    the poster said this was her SO, so yes he is attached and can not do whatever he wants to


    Answer by Anonymous at 5:30 PM on Aug. 2, 2010

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