Have you told him how you feel and let him know that it bothers you that you want his help? I find communication is key. Men are very different than women. Where we would tend to just do something because it needs to be done, men sometimes need direction ;-). I would first let him know how you feel and second, have him help with bathing, feeding, changing and once he feels comfortable, he can take the lead.
Some men are intimidated by babies and don't feel comfortable. They need encouragement and praise. If he has the baby and he does something you wouldn't do (besides something dangerous obviously), don't be quick to criticize. That will only discourage him from helping out in the future.
Let him know how important it is that he has a role in your child's life and needs to bond with your baby. Once your baby starts to enjoy being with him, that will help him want to be more involved as well. Good luck!
at 8:17 PM on Aug. 2, 2010