I don't know whether you should tell your dh or not, but I do know you need to stay away from this other guy - no "just talking", no "just hanging out", no "just catching up" - none of it. Because you're playing with fire, and you know it. People don't just "fall into" affairs - they start out like this, and gradually, one thing leads to another, and next thing you know, you're a cheat.
You need to ask yourself this question - if the shoe was on the other foot - if it was your dh that was lying to you and going to meet HIS ex, and she wanted him to stay and have sex - how would YOU feel? Would you like your dh to renew a relationship of any sort with a woman that wanted to screw him, and wanted him to cheat on you, and that he was willing to lie to you to get to spend time with her, or would you feel hurt and betrayed?
I don't mean this mean, but seriously, whether you tell him or not, you need to knock this off.
at 12:58 AM on Aug. 3, 2010