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How many dates...

...before you have sex?

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Asked by Anonymous at 6:43 PM on Aug. 3, 2010 in Relationships

Answers (13)
  • with my hubby it was 5

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 6:45 PM on Aug. 3, 2010

  • With my SO it was, well... one. But we have known one another for almost 14 years, and were always comfortable with one another. It was really unexpected (for both of us), just sorta happened.
    Otherwise... I dunno, a few. As many as it takes to become comfortable.

    Answer by ObbyDobbie at 6:46 PM on Aug. 3, 2010

  • As many as it takes to feel comfortable with him, for me and hubby it was 3.

    Answer by colethky at 6:47 PM on Aug. 3, 2010

  • I have no idea my husband and I 'hung out' for about three months before making it official...then it wasnt long after that at all.

    Answer by Misteh at 6:48 PM on Aug. 3, 2010

  • As many as it takes you to decide he is the man you want to marry, spend the rest of your life with, and get the ceremony behind you. Then it's perfectly permissible to have all the sex you want.

    Answer by NannyB. at 6:50 PM on Aug. 3, 2010

  • Ba ha ha ha ha!

    I was a virgin when I met my husband, I told him straight away that I wasn't having sex with him and if that is what he was expecting then he needed to go look somewhere else. lol
    We dated for 5 months before we had sex and went out 5-7 times a week, so it was well over 100 dates before we had sex.

    But back then I was really shy and innocent.
    Now if I was dating again I would probably wait 2-3 dates.

    Answer by SleepingBeautee at 6:52 PM on Aug. 3, 2010

  • Totally depends on the person, and what I'm feeling.

    I've gone out with some people for a few months and never had sex with them.
    I've gone out with some and had sex on the first date.

    There is no set time standard for me personally.

    Answer by pixie_trix at 6:58 PM on Aug. 3, 2010

  • I'm too old to sit around counting dates. If I like someone I have sex. With SO I met him, we hit it off and he followed me home and he's been here ever since. It's been four years so I don't really date anymore

    Answer by admckenzie at 6:59 PM on Aug. 3, 2010

  • I tried to hold out longer, but my husband and I did it on the 6th date. I was so attracted to him that I could not resist!

    Answer by kathyartist2007 at 7:37 PM on Aug. 3, 2010

  • whenever you start to feel comfortable with him

    Answer by 3xangel at 8:54 PM on Aug. 3, 2010

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