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So to my other question...mommies with one dad for their kids, how do you look at other moms that have more than one. weather it be from a previous marriage or relationship?

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:54 PM on Aug. 3, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • it's their business, not mine. all i can do is hope they take care of their children.

    Answer by jennifer588 at 11:55 PM on Aug. 3, 2010

  • Are the kids happy and healthy, do they have what they need?? That's all that matters really!! Shit happens... not my place to judge!!


    Answer by Morgain at 11:55 PM on Aug. 3, 2010

  • just 2 different daddies - OK you made a mistake, whatever. I can see it happening easily enough

    3-4 + daddies.. learn from your mistakes honey! quit repeating the dead end relationships!

    Answer by DarkFaery131 at 11:58 PM on Aug. 3, 2010

  • I would say that there are many circumstances where this happens and in some instances the woman/children are better off with a stepfather. The only thing that I hate is when women put their relationships over their kids welfare and will always bounce around from man to man in order to not be alone. I would say that as long as everyone is happy/taken care of/well adjusted it's great.

    Answer by shortleo at 11:59 PM on Aug. 3, 2010

  • Honestly, and I really don't meant to sound harsh...I do not judge someone who has maybe 2 different fathers for their children, I don't really even bat an eye, It's when they have like 4 kids with 4 different fathers that makes me think they are idiots. I mean come on...

    Answer by LovelyMother88 at 12:00 AM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • There has only been one incident when I thought ill of the situation. My brother in law started dating a woman that had two very small children right about a year and a half apart from different fathers, neither were involved with their lives. Then my BIL got her pregnant (HE should have known better as well, not just blaming her). That is just trashy and irresponsible IMO. Not just her part but the guys' also.

    Like I said though, that was the only one I've ever put any thought into on the subject. I know several great ladies that have children from more than one spouse. :)

    Answer by Jessica157 at 12:02 AM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • depends on the situtation. i have a friend who has 3 kids from 3 different dads. first husband beat her. second husband left her. she's still with the third. it really all depends on the situation. people like my husband's ex girlfriend (before we met) who has 5 kids with 5 different guys, leaves her kids with mommy all the time so she can go party and get pregnant again...sick.

    Answer by armywife43 at 12:04 AM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • If it is more like 3+, well I am think BC was not used. Not learnings from mistakes.

    Answer by Mom2Just1 at 12:05 AM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • i have 3 dads...well actually biological father and 2 stepdads and when i got adopted at age 5 i got another dad...never met my real dad and 1 of the stepdad...crazy huh. i think things happen and if it doesnt work out then you move on to find someone else

    Answer by spiffina at 12:07 AM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • I don't really care for the most part; not as long as the children involved are safe, healthy & happy. Ya know, shit isn't easy & neither is love. Some cases could be the man ran out, divorce, death, there's abuse or the wife could just be a slut.....w/o knowing the circumstances.........I do my best NOT to judge.

    Answer by eblstanford at 12:17 AM on Aug. 4, 2010

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