I know a woman who hated the idea of her son playing with guns. She made a hard and fast rule that he wasn't to have any and made sure that her friends and family all knew it so that when birthdays or other gift giving reasons came along there were no issues. However, her family was HIGHLY against this rule, for what reason, I'll never know. But when the boy turned 5 they all went out and bought him toy guns... Pop guns, bee bee guns, squirt guns... You name it... And he got them all at his party...
His mother was HORRIFIED - and BEYOND PISSED!! But at the same time felt overly guilty when she had to take all his new gifts off of him...
As his 6th birthday comes she's afraid to even invite her family to the party, because she doesn't want a repeat...
How would you have dealt with the issue of them buying guns? And second, how would you deal with the nearing 6th year birthday party? These are still his family members...
Answer by SleepingBeautee at 12:45 AM on Aug. 4, 2010
I am not a fan of my kids playing with guns... but I haven't made a big public spectacle of it. As a result it's really a none issue. Every once an a while a squirt gun will show up... but the next day it's gone... poof... no one seems to notice. So I guess I would not have let it get that out of control in the first place.
Maybe this Mom should have a party and say "no gifts please". Then she can have the party and if people brings gifts she has a reason to hold them to open later... so that those who did not bring gifts won't be embarrassed by those who did bring them. Then she can preview the gifts before the child sees them??
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