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what was the early signs of abusive of relationship

i just would like to know what are the early signs of it


Asked by Anonymous at 12:41 PM on Aug. 4, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Same as above - plus: He may becoming angry easily and want to get revenge over stupid things because he feels others are out to "get him" or do him wrong.  He may over-react to things on a regular basis or he may show strong emotions including misplaced jealousy and/or anger. He may ask you to dress a certain way so other men won't look at you, or ask you to dress provocatively and then get mad about it.  There may be something a little off/strange/weird about him.  He may be very possessive with you or pay too much attention to you, which may feel flattering at first.  He may say things about other people that seem like odd observations to be making.  Other people may act strange around him or around you when they know you are dating him.  You may have a nagging suspicion that something is not quite right.  He may drink too much or do drugs.



    Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 12:59 PM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • The abuser gets you away from family and friends. Alienates you makes you make a choice between them and him. They they work on your self esteem. They convince you that your incompetent and couldnt live without them. Forceful aggressive behavior.


    Answer by mistynights234 at 12:44 PM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • yeah I would have to agree with above poster.... all in all, control issues

    Answer by LuvsDanika at 12:46 PM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • Control issues, jealousy and manipulation I think are the starting points.

    Answer by blessedwboysx3 at 12:53 PM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • yep, its all about self-esteem and control first...and if you show him emotion over his insults or let him control, the abuse proceeds from there ! i've been there ! the problem is, if he is an abuser, and you don't let him control, the abuse could get out of hand real fast ! so ya can't even try to stop just have to get out of it !

    Answer by FXmomTo3 at 12:55 PM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • The longer you stay in, the more self esteem you loose which makes it more difficult to get out.

    Answer by beyondhopes at 12:56 PM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • Usually it starts with control; who you can be around, where you go. There's often jealousy as well, and lots of questions about where you've been/what you're doing when you're apart. It gradually increases, sometimes resulting in complete isolation. Once 9if) physical violence starts, it escalates as well - usually in a cycle of beatings, then a period of being extra nice.

    If you suspect you (or a friend) are in an abusive relationship, you probably are.

    Answer by Scuba at 3:06 PM on Aug. 4, 2010