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Not sure how to take it all in!?

A family member of mine has 2 kids and got divorced about a year ago and recently she started dating this really sweet girl. I like her girlfriend and everything and she treats the kids very good. but they just moved into a house together and her kids call her mom as well. Most of our family is looking down on them more then ive ever seen them do to anyone. I respect her choice to date this women but im not sure how i should react when im around my family and talking so poor about her. they are saying she is going to be a awful mother to those kids. And i dont see how that can effect how she parents.

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Asked by Anonymous at 5:34 PM on Aug. 4, 2010 in Relationships

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  • tell them to mind their own business and worry about their lives more. Them stop being so judgmental and get to know the new girlfriend.

    Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 5:36 PM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • *tell them

    Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 5:36 PM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • try some reverse psychology
    after they are done putting her down
    you say how nice it is to be around such positive , supportive mature adults

    they may see that they are acting like a bunch of high school bullies


    Answer by fiatpax at 5:40 PM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • tell them atleast she is happy and the kids are happy...and to suck your left ovary!

    Answer by mommadent at 5:43 PM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • if she's a good parent and loves her kids, having a girlfriend won't make her a bad parent. but i would still kinda be uncomfortable around it, that's just me. as for people talking bad about it, i woudln't join in, but theres not a lot u can do to stop them

    Answer by Butterflysky_24 at 5:46 PM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • tell them to mind their own business. and ask them would they say the same thing if she moved in with a guy??? if the answer is no they should be slapped

    Answer by justgrape723 at 5:48 PM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • my sister in law told me this: clean off your porch before you start talking trash about others. hope it helps. she's told that to at least for people that i know of.

    Answer by noel1978 at 5:48 PM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • they wouldnt be talking crap about her if she didnt have kids. its all about the kids. dont give into thier trash talk cause you know it will come back around and you can proudly say you havent said anything and no one can use your name

    Answer by americansugar80 at 5:52 PM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • Let them know that they don't know what's going to happen. That they can't predict how she will be as a parent. That they shouldn't judge her soo quickly. Then let them know how you feel. Maybe they'll come around.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 5:54 PM on Aug. 4, 2010

  • Let them know that it is not okay to talk about her badly around you.

    Answer by MsHouseWife at 6:11 PM on Aug. 4, 2010

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