My daughter (with aspergers) plays oboe in band. It is a way that she can use her love of structure and "rules" while working cooperatively with others. It provides her with a group identity, something that is rarely available for such kids who are typically the social rejects. She's doing really well in band & I think it has been good for her, but she says she wants to quit because she has to go to school "too early" for band (band meets before school at her level in our district.) I've made her stick with it anyway. What do you think?Answer Question
Answer by elly25 at 7:19 PM on Aug. 4, 2010
Answer by Butterfly1108 at 7:21 PM on Aug. 4, 2010
Answer by Bmat at 7:26 PM on Aug. 4, 2010
hummm... hard to say since I dont really know anything about aspergers... but in general I would say you should not allow a child to quit anything mid stream. If school has already started and she has made a commitment to the band then she is obligated to be there until the end of the semester or year (depending on when auditions are held).
Answer by sahlady at 7:27 PM on Aug. 4, 2010
Answer by LuvmyFam6 at 7:28 PM on Aug. 4, 2010
My oldest son also has Asperger's and I know from experience that a routine is a definite must with Asperger's children. I also know that when they get it in their head that they want to quit something it is hard to navigate their mind away from it. If she just started playing I would say give her a time limit......maybe a semester to get used to it and then see what happens. If she played it last year also then she knows what it's like to get up early and be part of a "team" so she knows what she'll be missing. If she's not involved with this she needs to find something else......Asperger's children need social interactions above all else to help them develop into healthy adults.
Answer by colethky at 7:34 PM on Aug. 4, 2010
Answer by BradenIsMySon at 7:39 PM on Aug. 4, 2010
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Answer by Joy118 at 12:12 AM on Aug. 5, 2010
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