My husband told his sister that her family of 5 could come live with ouf 4 while they build their house. Our families are very close, but his sister disciplines our kids when we're right there, and if they are in her care -- she loves to report on all the "bad" things they did while we were away. She is very critical of how we do things, of my kids, of my husband, of her husband. I want my husband to tell her he spoke otu of turn, as he never checked with me. I don't think this is a good idea on MANY levels, but I think I'm going to have to be the heavy, and I think that either way, the realtionship will be damaged, either now by me saying "no" or later after we've all had enough of each other. Looking for words of wisdom and talking points about how to say "no" and still keep peace with me and my husband, and his sister's family.Answer Question
I think your HUSBAND should deliver the news to her.
Answer by sahlady at 3:18 PM on Aug. 5, 2010
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Answer by MaryMW at 3:23 PM on Aug. 5, 2010
Maybe, first come up with a list of these habits that drive you nuts, then you and Hubby (together) decide how these situations should be handled. After the two of you come up with a realistic set of rules and guidelines the two of you sit with SIL and her hubby to discuss ground rules of the situation, including consequences. Hopefully she wont want to deal with "rules of the House" and will make the decision on her own not to live with you. If not and she still moves in you have got reason to boot her out the door if it causes problems.
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