My spouse is emotionally, mentally abusive and has threatened distruction of items cutting up the bed, and has broken sentimental items, hid meds, kids glasses, etc..... Everytime I want to go file so that I can get the ball rolling for divorce it seems it is not a good time, as in today I would have but my middle child is at camp and will be home today but not sure when, now I am worried about this evening and if my spouse will try to take off with kids etc... (He would only take the younger two ( 14 and 2) but not sure how a protective order would work, if he were to try to take off with them can you file one that would make him have to bring them back? I don't think he would take them long as he is not a diaper changer but just want some peace of mind.Answer Question
Answer by specialwingz at 3:29 PM on Aug. 5, 2010
Where I live you can have one put in place as well as with a temporary custody order so he can't take the kids, can also set the order so that he couldn't be on your home property. You'll have to check with your laws? I will say one thing if you want to leave him and your leaving your place eventually do that..Otherwise you may loose alot of your personal things..If he wants to be a jerk and most the time they are
Answer by bizima4 at 3:31 PM on Aug. 5, 2010
Answer by msh88 at 3:34 PM on Aug. 5, 2010
Answer by Ricanmami1 at 3:34 PM on Aug. 5, 2010
I know what I am going to write may seem harsh. If you are in an abusive relationship there is no excuse about 'not a good time'. You and your children are in danger. Run. Run as fast as you can. Grab the children, all of them, go to a local emergency room and tell the staff you are in an abusive relationship and you are in need of protection. They will put you in contact with the local shelter. At the shelter there will be people who know all the local laws on how to protect yourself and your children. If you have time at home, get the children's birth certificates, shot records, and any other documentation you will need to put them in another school. Do not forget your own documents, medications and anything else you think you will need. Put all of the above in a large garbage bag, store it at a safe place, a trusted friend, in the trunk of your car, or even at a local storage place.
Answer by Joeygoat at 3:35 PM on Aug. 5, 2010
There are tons of people who are willing and able to help you. But you need to help yourself first. If you think you would like your children to treat your future grandchildren this way, then stay. If not, break the cycle and RUN. Good luck. Keep us posted if you can.
Answer by Joeygoat at 3:36 PM on Aug. 5, 2010
Really there is never going to be a perfect time. Call a lawyer if you are unsure what to do, they will direct to the right path.
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