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How would your husband feel about a child molester brother?

The other day a mom asked a question about forgiving a child molester that was her brother. A lot of us moms responded, with varying answers about forgiveness, and a general consensus that we wouldn't want our children around him....

Anyway, none of us asked how her husband would feel about it. This is not his brother, not someone he might have some love for.....but they are still his children. I was just wondering if this mom is still on here, how her husband might feel....and for those other mom's how would your husband's feel about having their children around a child molester, or having a child molester in his life.??

 
ohwrite

Asked by ohwrite at 1:46 AM on Aug. 6, 2010 in Relationships

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Answers (10)
  • My husband would not allow our child to be around a child molester, no matter who it was. Forgiveness and/or family relationships have nothing to do with it. Prootecting your own kids should come before any and all other things, period.
    getrealmama

    Answer by getrealmama at 2:27 AM on Aug. 6, 2010

  • Neither myself, nor my husband, would ever allow mine/his kids around a molester. It would never happen, no matter who the molester was. It is our jobs as parents to protect our children first and foremost. Just because someone is related by blood does not give them any more rights to be around my kids. The molester, no matter who it was, would be damned lucky if my husband didn't shoot them.
    TarLion

    Answer by TarLion at 1:29 PM on Aug. 6, 2010

  • My ex-husband is a child molester - not of my children - and we no longer have any contact with him. I have had several boyfriends since my divorce, each of whom had a different reaction to the news. One didn't want to be associated with it at all, one wanted to protect us from him and wished he could kick his ass, and the other (my current) seems to take it in stride.
    popcornlover

    Answer by popcornlover at 2:10 AM on Aug. 6, 2010

  • I agree with pp, we would not allow our kids around ANY child molester even if it was a family member
    Mom2Rylin

    Answer by Mom2Rylin at 3:37 AM on Aug. 6, 2010

  • Well, considering his brother has three little girls, I'd say he'd most likely disown him and never speak to him again.
    MomtoElliett

    Answer by MomtoElliett at 4:41 AM on Aug. 6, 2010

  • My husband would not want anything to do with him and would not allow our kids around him.
    bjane01

    Answer by bjane01 at 7:42 AM on Aug. 6, 2010

  • i myself would not let him around me or my family. if he came to family gatherings i would either not go or not speak to him and never leave him with my kid or any other kids
    poshkat

    Answer by poshkat at 8:23 AM on Aug. 6, 2010

  • My husband would not want anything to do with someone like that, and honestly, neither would I.
    LovingSAHMommy

    Answer by LovingSAHMommy at 10:54 AM on Aug. 6, 2010

  • My husband wouldn't want anything to do with someone like that. I could find it in my heart to forgive someone like that, but I would never forget. I doubt I'd ever be comfortable enough to let my children around him and I know my husband would feel the same way.
    poptart0325

    Answer by poptart0325 at 1:35 PM on Aug. 6, 2010

  • Thank you all, as I said after reading the other mom's question about her brother who had molested, I realized that none of us had asked how her husband felt. Mine would also feel the same way, he wouldn't want anything to do with the guy, nor would he want him near our kids no matter who they were......
    ohwrite

    Comment by ohwrite (original poster) at 5:45 PM on Aug. 7, 2010

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