Before you adopted, were there any mentions by social workers or other parents who had adopted with bio children as well about sibling rivalery?
Have any of you experienced your children fighting with each other, not in over a toy or not over 'he's looking at me' - but over status in the family? Real vs unreal?
How did you or would you handle it? How would you deal with one of your children who is using this weapon against the other?
Answer by frogdawg at 10:48 PM on Aug. 7, 2010
Answer by meriana at 10:00 AM on Aug. 6, 2010
Answer by mcginnisc at 4:57 PM on Aug. 6, 2010
Answer by Iamgr8teful at 5:46 PM on Aug. 6, 2010
I do not plan to have a biological child because I do not think it would be fair to either child, a biological child or my son through adoption. In our case we have a transracial family and our son is black. Many white children in transracial family have reported feeling left out or ugly. All the attention was reported to be given to the child of color: I love your hair, your skin is so smooth, your so beautiful....all by well intentioned family, friends, and people they run into in general. But imagine your white child who never gets complimented or feels special. This has been reported so often in several surveys and interviews by the siblings of adoptees. I would not do that to a child nor would I want my son to think that he wasn't good enough so I had to have a white child to complete our family. There are several sources that cite bio children being jealous of their adopted sibling.
Answer by frogdawg at 10:44 PM on Aug. 7, 2010
Answer by Manda_Evans at 12:23 AM on Aug. 9, 2010