Many of you asked why allowing the birthmom to choose the parent made me feel uncomfortable. First I'd like to thank all participants. Also thank you for not putting me down. Did anyone feel this way?
I felt uncomfortable because I notice most kids aren't adopted until they are much older..2yrs. old. I really wanted an infant. I have my own birth kids, but wanted to adopt instead of having another one. I hate to sound like a broken record but there are truly an enormous waiting list for potential adopted parents. I'm not sure why, but that sounds as if someone is beign too picky about an adopted parent. Yes, this is a very important decision. I'm not suggestion that you should allow your child to go to anyone, but I believe the waiting periods can be shorten by all involved and give a child a loving home asap! The longer it took for birthmoms to nick pick me the more discouraged I became.
Where are you getting your information?In voluntary relinquishment ,DIA , not due to abuse ,neglect ,etc. without any CPS type involvement the ages tend to be infant range. Outside of a family placement in a forced relinquishment seldom do parents losing custody get to quiz and pick potential adoptive parents .
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