He did something out of spite because he was mad at dh, dh did not take too kindly to it and said some things that he probably shouldn't have (I don't know what exactly). His dad has called his sister to I guess cry on her shoulder rather than talk things out with dh. I get a msg from her asking for a call back to see if we had a nice time at their bbq a few days earlier. So I return the call only to get bombarded with her opinions. She tells me that she can't believe what dh said (must have had the msg played for her) and that he should go to church and ask forgiveness(we're christian not catholic) and he should be ashamed because of all that fil has done for us. I was mortified to find out that he has told her personal things that we just assumed were not to be talked about with others and she recommended that me and dh go for counselling, personal and financial, WHAT?! cont,
Answer by amessageofhope at 1:10 AM on Aug. 7, 2010
1. You need to not tell your FIL any other personal details because it's clear he can't keep his mouth shut. Do not call his sister back because it is not her business to be in. You don't owe her a explanation of any kind. Some people like drama and feed off of it. Don't let them suck you in. If you allow the two people to work it out that is the best way to go. When outside parties butt in, it makes a big problem even bigger. I hope they can work it out. But sometimes people do have to walk away if it gets to that point. I hope it doesn't for your family.
Answer by SylviaNCali at 11:57 PM on Aug. 6, 2010
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