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Are there any Mom's who can give a 48 yo woman, who has been married for 27 years and is newly seperated any advise?

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Asked by where2now at 5:37 PM on Oct. 5, 2008 in Adult Children (18+)

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  • Find yourself. Find who you are, what you want out of life. Enjoy. Relax.

    Answer by Southerncharmes at 6:36 PM on Oct. 5, 2008

  • Be independent & it all about you.


    Answer by Tinkerbell3396 at 9:15 PM on Oct. 5, 2008

  • It's your time to shine! Do something you've never done before. Take a cruise. Get a tatoo. Sign up for college. Volunteer at a animal shelter. Whatever floats your boat! Good luck on the rest of your life!!!!

    Answer by shmorris56 at 12:25 AM on Oct. 6, 2008

  • my 45 year old mom went threw a devorce this year after being married for 20 years and this is what she did.....first she cried, then she got mad, then she decided to get a better life then she had with him....she redid her decorating little by little buying things from di and fixing them up making her home really hers and her style...she got some friends and began going out to coffee like they do on sex and the city sitting around just talking about everything and anything.....and she found someone that needed her to fill the void that he left with the feeling she was useless she began to take a more attentive role in her kids and grand kids far she is doing great, i dont know if any of theses ideas help you but i sure hope they do....and i hope your life turns out the way you want in the wishes christan

    Answer by christandutton at 1:13 AM on Oct. 6, 2008

  • Allow yourself time to grieve first off. Don't rush that process. Once you have done that, then join groups that interest you. Meet new people. Don't be afraid to share the burden of what you are going through. When I went through my separation, I tried to do it alone. You will go crazy. Talk to family, friends, a counselor, this group, but talk. A problem shared is a problem halved.

    Answer by bcr8ive at 6:06 AM on Oct. 7, 2008

  • Take a class. Do volunteer work. Figure out what makes you happy. Make yourself available to meet new people and find out what life has to offer you. Enjoy!

    Answer by admckenzie at 10:49 AM on Oct. 7, 2008

  • My mom is 40 and had been married for 22 years, I can only tell you what I saw her do. Take some personal grieving time. Then do things that make you happy because now you do not have to consider your SO with what you want to do. It's freeing.

    Answer by cherrygirl87 at 12:29 PM on Oct. 7, 2008

  • Don't be in a relationship with a another man for a long time.Just do what makes you happy for a while.Be free.

    Answer by evelynwest at 12:58 PM on Oct. 7, 2008

  • Take time for yourself and remember to take it one day at a time. Its a change. Been there done that myself. Everything happens for a reason though and I have found that when God empties your cup its only to refill it with something better. Good Luck.

    Answer by gemgem at 6:28 PM on Oct. 8, 2008

  • If your gonna date always have condoms, don't invite any dates to your home. Work on your self esteem. exercise sucks but will transform you inside and out. Plan, Plan, Plan every waking minute of your day and night and you will feel more self fulfilled. example. this may sound strange but it works.1035am fold clothes. 11am.start preparations for new lunch receipe, 1120am read people mag, 1145am read oprah mag, 1200 lunch time cooking. Write your plans down. If plans run together even better the point is You have something that you've planned and you have something to do. Meditation, book reading, watchin t.v. calling a friend, blogging on line, go to macy's to look at new lipstick colors or perfume is something to do. Give yourself to others , big brother big sister, drive someone without a car to the store. Giving out of need will come back a blessing. Take extra good care of your hair and skin.

    Answer by tellis at 8:39 AM on Oct. 10, 2008

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