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What rights should the father have if his unmarried girlfriend wants an abortion?


Asked by But_Mommie at 10:42 PM on Aug. 7, 2010 in Politics & Current Events

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  • I think a 'potential' father (if it's only a potential baby, he can't be called a father can he) should have the same 'rights' as the woman ~ without forcing anything on her.

    Meaning, if he wants the child and she doesn't ~ he's screwed. Meaning if she wants the child and he doesn't ~ he can still opt out and 'abort' any future rights and/or responsibilities.

    I do NOT think it is right to give someone as hormonally challenged as a newly pregnant woman the sole right to determine whether the life she created will live or die. I don't think that a woman should be able to hold a man's wallet hostage for years simply because she keeps a baby the man doesn't want.

    I believe that children deserve two parents who will love them ~ not use them as a pawn, a paycheck, or to hurt someone else.

    Answer by Farmlady09 at 11:31 PM on Aug. 7, 2010

  • The father should have a right to fight for his child. As long as the mother can safely carry it to term. I do not believe it's right to kill just because it's not convenient especially if the father is willing and ready to provide the child with a loving home.


    Answer by SylviaNCali at 12:59 AM on Aug. 8, 2010

  • Lawmom, I specifically said a man shouldn't be able to force a woman. If that needs to be more specific, a man should not be able to force a woman to carry to term or to abort. Since a woman also knows that unprotected sex carries risks, that is not a valid argument ... unless you are saying women are too stupid to figure out how babies 'happen'.

    A woman legally has that choice, whether I agree with it or not, but the law is neither equal nor fair.

    As long as a man can be forced to pay for a child ~ whether or not he wants to be a daddy, or whether or not he is even allowed to see that child ~ the law is not equal.

    A woman can be impregnated by rape, but she can also be impregnated by a man she has lied to about birth control ~ and that second one happens far more often than the first. Men should have the same right to 'abort' as women, with the same time limits involved. That is fair. That is equal.

    Answer by Farmlady09 at 5:22 AM on Aug. 8, 2010

  • No rights what so ever

    Answer by mamaofficer at 10:52 PM on Aug. 7, 2010

  • There are many men who have fought against their former spouse/so to keep a baby. Unfortunately, none have succeeded. Men should have a say. If a woman can choose to keep a child against a mans will and make him pay for it.... then why not the other way around? And those that use the "if he can make you not have one he can make you have one"... not if you both sign a wavier saying he has no parental rights and no child support obligations. This is why the states vote for these laws are important! If a state votes for men to have fetal parental rights and you aren't for it move to a state that doesn't have it!

    And seriously,whoreallycares.... Maybe "you" should have kept "your" skank legs closed?... How bout some BC? Or maybe a female condom? Don't blame a guy cause "you" are a slut and just as responsible for preventing pregnancy as he is.

    Answer by Crissy1213 at 4:57 AM on Aug. 8, 2010

  • unfortunately they have no rights and will never have rights...what will people do? keep women captive to make sure they don't abort? I don't think anyone should have rights over anyone elses body that is why women are financially responsible for the pregnancy until the baby is born, because there is not proof that the baby is the mans

    Answer by DomoniqueWS at 10:44 PM on Aug. 7, 2010

  • well they technically dont have any rights....but i dont know that they should. its hard to say when there are so many guys who want the female not to abort but then they head for the hills as soon as the baby is born. if it were me and i didnt want the baby then i would sign my rights over to the father after the child was born, if he wanted to care for it.

    Answer by secondtyme520 at 10:47 PM on Aug. 7, 2010

  • All the rights to that baby being born, now with that said, this man is stable and willing and wanting to raise this child accordingly.

    Answer by QandA at 10:47 PM on Aug. 7, 2010

  • He doesn't have any rights

    Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 10:51 PM on Aug. 7, 2010

  • Not what rights does he have...What rights ' should' he have...IYO.

    Comment by But_Mommie (original poster) at 10:53 PM on Aug. 7, 2010