My DS is just shy of 1 year old, and I just weaned him from breastfeeding. (PLEASE do not bash because I weaning DS before 2 years I have my reasons.) a few months back we were living in a place he wasn't allowed to cry, at all and so I held him 24/7. Now he expects it and throws a fit any time I put him down. (Unless he's eating.) Even to go to the bathroom. Weaning seems to have only made it worse, but I'm at my wit's end. There are some times I need to do things. But I can't just ignore him. I go thru all the basics but there's nothing he wants except to be held. Any advice?
Answer by maggiemom2000 at 12:21 PM on Aug. 8, 2010
Your baby isn't even a year. You had to switch to bottles and formula, a huge deal. If you could have waited until a year then you could have just weaned and your baby would have needed no formula or milk.
Your baby is only 11 mo. Get a sling or wrap and then you can do the things you want to do with your baby held close to you. Your baby may want to be held a lot until he is 18 mo or older. I take care of my 22 mo grandson ever other day and he still needs held a lot.
I'm not sure what you mean by "throws a fit." If you mean want's to be held, that's normal. It's hard wired into a baby's brain. Now is a good time to read some toddler parenting books so you are ready. Love & Limits by Elizabeth Crary is good.
Answer by Gailll at 10:39 AM on Aug. 8, 2010
Answer by elizabr at 10:30 AM on Aug. 8, 2010
For all of human history and in most cultures today babies have been held 24/7. That's the way it is supposed to be. When babies start crawling and walking they spend more time out of mother's arms. When they have their dependency needs met they can become independent. You didn't do something wrong by holding him as a baby.
When mothers wean for "their reasons" before the child is ready there can be consequences. That's disadvantage of mother led weaning. The behavioral consequences can be much worse that whatever the mother's reason was for weaning. Many times the mother's reason is not well researched. She may think she has to wean to take a medication but that medication can be taken while bf.
Answer by Gailll at 10:32 AM on Aug. 8, 2010
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