My son may have autism (we are going to a specialist soon). I know I have to learn about how to help him and I am by reading and researching.
I try to explain some of the things that are going on with my son to family and they just don't want to deal with how things are and don't seem to get that we need help. If I tell him he has a hard time sleeping, they say oh he's just so tired. If I try to explain how he gets upset for no reason, they say oh all kids hae meltdowns. When he takes them by the hand and leads them to a cookie in the kitchen, and I tell not to just give it to him... that he needs to try to say some sort of sounds for it. They say he wants it and just give it to him. My son is three and not talking yet. He uses some signs and tries PECS. I try my best to make him say something for what he wants. It may take a while, but when he said "open" this morning it made my day. Why don't people get it?
Answer by Juggalette0327 at 11:22 AM on Aug. 8, 2010
Autism is so common but most people have little or no experience with children with autism. Don't assume it is others that have a problem. You are going to have to adjust to the world the way it is. Don't talk to people about Autism if you know they are clueless. They can just give him a cookie, teaching him to talk isn't their job.
Answer by Gailll at 11:26 AM on Aug. 8, 2010
its not just the general public who "don't get it" it is also some pediatricians. My sons first Doctor had no clue (neither did I) After we switched Doc's &got the Dx I realized a lot of the concerns that I brought to the 1st doc's attention were clear autistic behaviors. Some people have a hard time because they are afraid they will be blamed that the child has autism. They also do not understand it is a brain disorder. The best you can do is to educate them as you educate yourself. Find any article you can & print it out. High light those points in the article that describe your son. I know in our 2 families the "A" word was not spoken, they kinda skirted around it. I just kept saying the "A" word & I have found that with time they are talking about it more &some have actually have said the "A" word. (cont)
Answer by justgrape723 at 11:26 AM on Aug. 8, 2010
Answer by elizabr at 11:28 AM on Aug. 8, 2010
You have to get them used to all of it from the terminology, to the characteristics and behaviors. When Typical kids throw tantrums they can be bribed to stop w/ the promise of a cookie or new toy. When Autistic kids have a meltdown. NOTHING you offer will get them to stop they have to finish it. (& trying to stop it will only make it worse) Trying to stop a meltdown is like trying to stop a hurricane, can't be done. Every one in the family has to learn how to deal with & help the autistic child (this means aunts uncles G'Parents cousins siblings etc) It is THAT IMPORTANT. when a mother of a typical child asks family to do certain things w/ their child they are expected to do as asked. Parents with autisic kids should expect & receive no less.
Answer by justgrape723 at 11:36 AM on Aug. 8, 2010
Most people don't get it because they do not have to deal with it on an every day basis. None of my children have autism so I can speak from experience about not really understanding it. I would think the same thing, in instances. My kids have meltdowns and tantrums. There are times when they point instead of talk. Most people don't study autism unless they have a child with it, and this is where the ignorance comes from. You are going to have to find a way to get your family to work with you on this. If not, the work you have accomplished will come undone. I have seen that before. Good luck with your child, and I hope that things work out.
Answer by krissyvelazquez at 11:38 AM on Aug. 8, 2010
Autism is so common but most people have little or no experience with children with autism. That means they need more education & they need to be open minded & not judgemental Don't assume it is others that have a problem. Others do have a problem w/ our kids we get stared at , yelled at, cussed at, & told to keep our kids home where no one has to see them.You are going to have to adjust to the world the way it is. The world is going to have to adjust, the numbers are rising, just like handicap parking signs and handicap assessable parking people will have to learn to accept & adjust
Answer by NightPhoenix at 12:17 PM on Aug. 8, 2010
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