Our oldest is 7 years old and still needs help with washing her hair and we have to clean her pierced ears with antibacterial soap after the hair washing to make sure no shampoo/conditioner gets in. On the weekends when I am puting the baby to bed (she strongly prefers me at bedtime and won't go to sleep for him...I think she likes to cuddle on the boobies...LOL!), I ask my husband sometimes to help our oldest with her bath. She washes her body herself and we turn around so we can't see while she does that to give her some privacy. I don't have any indication that my husband would ever be inappropriate with her, and I sometimes I listen at the door just to be sure and have never had any reason for alarm. I was sexually abused as a child however so I might be over-protective in that way. Your thoughts?
Good for you for being cautious! I think it's fine for him to wash her hair, I'd just put a wash cloth or two over her for modesty. My girls kicked their Dad out of the bathroom on their own at that age, she probably will too soon. Let her practice washing her own hair and rinsing. You just check it when she's done and have her re-rinse when she needs to. That way she is self sufficient and she won't need his help much longer. If you ever have a bad feeling about your kids and anyone, follow up on it, no matter who it is. Talk to your daughter about bad touch and make sure she knows bad touch means family and friends too. I asked my nephew if he would tell if someone touched him in a bad way, he said yes. I asked him what if that person was a friend of Mommy's and it might hurt her feelings? He said no! Scary! Good luck!!
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