I have to post this anonymously, as it is so embarassing to me. I have been with my husband for just over three years now and we've been married one year. I always assumed he masterbated, I mean, I assume all men do, but I've never witnessed it, nor wanted to. Last night, after putting my son to bed, I walked into our bedroom and "caught him in the act" so to say. Maybe I'm just a prude, but I was highly disgusted and he says to me "So, do you want to do it?" Oh my god, it was just so embarassing and disturbing for me. I wish I had never walked in there. I did though and now I don't know if I should just pretend it never happened or talk about it or what?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:12 AM on Oct. 6, 2008 in Relationships
It is a natural thing. If you cannot talk to him about how it feels to you then that is a problem. Ask if he can close the door and lock it next time. Tell him you are not comfortable about it. It is not that you do not love him sexually, you just rather not see him "do it" and if he loves you, he would understand it. Besides, one day your son will be doing it too and you need to come up with "ground rules" or you will have major issues/problems. Besides, if you masturbate, would you want your husband to see you too? Or your son when he is old enough to walk? It can be done, just done in more private settings. You do not have to have talks with your son yet, but try having it with your husband is a good start.
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