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How should i deal with the fits my 2 year old throws time out arnt working niether does the swat team and i need help from other moms.

Nikkole has been throwing fits even befor her brother was born and they havent gotten any worse just not any better is this a typical phase or what.

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nikkole42

Asked by nikkole42 at 6:46 PM on Aug. 10, 2010 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Toy Jail - makes a big impression on a 2 year old. When the manipulative fit-throwing starts, grab the most favorite toy and say, "if you do not stop that behavior, ____ toy is going to toy jail." Toy Jail is a box WAY out of reach of the toddler and toy will not be returned for a day or two (longer for the older the child is).

    It was an extremely effective way to end any undesirable behaviors in my children (and they were BOTH ADHD).
    tasches

    Answer by tasches at 6:49 PM on Aug. 10, 2010

  • Tantrums are normal in toddlers. The best thing to do is ignore them. Don't talk her through it, don't try to distract her, just ignore her. If it helps put her in her room to throw it out. Just don't give her the attention she's seeking by throwing a fit. Sometimes kids respond better when they don't get any punishment for tantrums. A tantrum is simply their way of trying to get your attention to get what they want. It's best not to give in to them and just let them have it out.
    JazzlikeMraz

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 6:51 PM on Aug. 10, 2010

  • Ask her why she's mad. Explain to her there's a better way to make her feelings known. And talk to her about other options, help her find a more productive way to get her feelings and frustrations out.

    May or may not actually work, but worth a shot. If that doesn't work... designate a room/corner/chair for the tantrums, and let her go there to throw her fit and let her get it out of her system. Our baby sitter has a stool in the hall "ok, if you're going to cry go do it on the stool. Let me know when you're done" and ignore it from there if it doesn't get a reaction it's much less appealing an option for a lot of kids. It seems to be effective for the older kids, and DD (who's 19 months) already knows to go sit on her stool to throw a fit because no one else wants to hear it.
    coder_chick

    Answer by coder_chick at 6:53 PM on Aug. 10, 2010

  • ignore them
    Decker

    Answer by Decker at 7:05 PM on Aug. 10, 2010

  • I'd ignore them. If the situation isn't serious they probably just want attention
    MelissaFl6485

    Answer by MelissaFl6485 at 8:05 PM on Aug. 10, 2010

  • I actually send my DD to her room. She will stand in her doorway and scream. If it becomes bad enough Daddy will intervene with a pop on the behind and she will actually calm down at that point. Daddy has only intervened twice but most times sending her to her room gets her to stop screaming and throwing her hissy and she calms down by the time she comes out.
    coala

    Answer by coala at 8:44 PM on Aug. 10, 2010

  • In our house, we allow tantrums with 2 rules: they must be in the child's own room and there can be no destruction of property. When our oldest was that age and would have a fit I just told him that it was ok to feel "mad/upset/frustrated" but if he was going to act like that he had to do it in his own room and he could come back when he was done. If he came out still grumpy he went right back and we would repeat the process until he came out in a better mood. Then, when he was calm, we could talk about why he was feeling like he was and often resolve it. Sometimes, he was just grumpy though and that was ok. Kids that age don't usually have the tools to deal with that stuff so they have fits. Heck, a lot of adults have fits even with the right tools... At any rate, that worked for us. He got to the point that if he felt a fit coming on he would go to his room without being told. Good Luck
    Krysden

    Answer by Krysden at 11:10 PM on Aug. 10, 2010

  • heres a bump GL
    san78

    Answer by san78 at 7:43 AM on Aug. 11, 2010

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