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My 5 year old refuse to go to sleep till very late

My 5 year old doesn't sleep right. She refuses to lay down and be still till at least 11 at night even if we put her to bed at 7 8 o'clock. We have to fight to get her into the bed every night We lay her down and let her watch tv to calm down It's the only way she stays still If we try to turn it off The fight goes on for hours but she still gets outta bed to play with toys If we try to lay down with her she starts talking It's impossible now to just keep her in her room She wakes up usually around 11 but if we wake her up early without letting her nap she'll go to bed early that night but the next it's the same thing all over again even if she got up at 7 again! Don't know what to do to make her sleep If I should contact a doctor or what?

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Asked by MelissaFl6485 at 8:02 PM on Aug. 10, 2010 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • I think it's a power struggel, and would have some harder punishments for getting out. Bedtime is bedtime.
    Good luck :)

    Answer by Nynne at 8:09 PM on Aug. 10, 2010

  • Take the tv away, and if you have to, take all the toys out of her room. Decide what time you want her to go to bed. Read her a story, and then turn out the light and tell her good-night. Tell her if she gets up out of the bed, she will be spanked. If she isn't sleepy, she can lie in the bed, but she cannot get up. She will get up, and then you must spank her butt. She knows she is controlling the whole family with this carrying on every night, and she's doing it because you have allowed her to do it. It will take a few nights to get this taken care of, so you must do the same thing every single night without exception. Every time she gets out of the bed, spank her butt and put her right back in it. Disobedience has painful consequences. That's the reality of life, and it's a lesson every parent must teach her children.

    Answer by NannyB. at 8:09 PM on Aug. 10, 2010

  • You need to stand firm, but the t.v. is to much for a child of that age. You need to decide what the consequences are for her not respecting the house rules and follow through. Put her to bed and that is that. I wish you luck.

    Answer by coala at 8:11 PM on Aug. 10, 2010

  • Is she consuming large amounts of sugar or caffeine before bed? Do you have some sort of wind-down routine before bedtime?


    Answer by Fallaya at 8:14 PM on Aug. 10, 2010

  • I don't see a problem with a quiet story cd or music (quiet, not like upbeat stuff at bedtime) but no tv, you have to have your eyes open, for one...

    Answer by txdaniella at 8:19 PM on Aug. 10, 2010

  • Does she need the nap everyday? Try cutting out the nap so she is tired at bedtime.

    Answer by Journey311 at 8:20 PM on Aug. 10, 2010

  • TV keeps them up so that is not a good idea of a way to sooth them to sleep. My 5 yr old is a night owl by nature but she has always went to bed at 8P and stayed there she isn't loud or does she cause trouble she just lays there and sings and talks. She is getting better though. She is now in kinder and so far she has managed to be asleep by 9P which is awesome. You need to develope a routine thats consitant and stick too it. There is no reason for her to get up once unless she needs to go to the bathroom.

    Answer by hill2 at 8:41 PM on Aug. 10, 2010

  • i agree with the other ladies...try talking to her more about goin to bed and start her another routine and take everything out of her room and let her know she will be punish if you gets out of bed(unless she has to potty)...good luck...

    Answer by mekarevell at 2:05 AM on Aug. 11, 2010

  • take the TV away and do not let her watch TV or us ethe computer for 30 min. before bed time. If she starts to play with a toy go in and take it away (tell her before hand all toys taken away at bed time are gone for a week.
    Start a routine with her 1 hour before bed time have a take her bath or shower., brush teeth go potty etc. dim the lights in the house, shut off all TV's. 30 min before bed read her a story or 2. The smell of lavendar is a soothing smell that helps some people fall asleep. You may want to ask Doctor about meletonin for her to help her go to sleep.Be firm with her and don't back down...good luck

    Answer by justgrape723 at 10:29 AM on Aug. 11, 2010

  • Yep, it sounds like a power struggle. It won't be easy and you will have to deal with tantrums, etc. As others have said, no TV. It just stimulates her enough to keep her awake. Let he lay in bed and look at books or listen to relaxing music. Maybe try and put her to bed later, like 830pm. Don't let her sleep in or take naps.

    Answer by Jadegirl1819 at 2:03 PM on Aug. 11, 2010

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