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So Why is it if your daughter gets pregnant and decides to keep the baby but the father doesnt want the baby he is still expected to help take care and pay for the baby...

But if the woman wants to abort the baby and the man wants to keep it,he has no say and she can abort his unborn child?

Its a contradiction if you think that way,you cant say you helped make that baby now you help take care of it and provide it with everything it needs,and then turn around and say its her body her choice it doesnt matter if you want the baby or not

spin off of the question

What rights should the father have if his unmarried girlfriend wants an abortion?

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mommy16love

Asked by mommy16love at 12:36 AM on Aug. 11, 2010 in Parenting Debate

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  • The guy doesn't get a vote if the woman wants to abort because he will not carry it for 9 months and then go through the pain of labor.
    The guy doesn't get a vote if the woman wants to keep the baby because he should have kept his hose in his pants.
    icanbeabitch

    Answer by icanbeabitch at 12:38 AM on Aug. 11, 2010

  • the father's option is always condoms or keep it in his pants.

    while that baby is in the woman's body, it's her choice period. Until they find a way to make him carry the fetus, go through the hell it puts on your body and mental status, then give birth to the baby, he should have thought about it before the sex.

    DarkFaery131

    Answer by DarkFaery131 at 12:39 AM on Aug. 11, 2010

  • I'm afraid it's just a matter of Science. Boys can't have babies. That simple.
    Erin814

    Answer by Erin814 at 12:40 AM on Aug. 11, 2010

  • I agree its backwards thinking. The guy gets screwed either way. If he wants the baby and mom wants to abort he has no decision. If the mom wants the baby and the dad doesnt he still has to pay. I dont get it, I never had.
    Shani527

    Answer by Shani527 at 12:41 AM on Aug. 11, 2010

  • The guy doesn't get a vote if the woman wants to keep the baby because he should have kept his hose in his pants.

    Ya I forgot that women have no say when it comes to sex and the man is the one who has sex with the woman we take no part or do anything ourselves to put ourselves in a sexual situation,and we take no part when it comes to making a baby or choosing to have sex with someone
    mommy16love

    Comment by mommy16love (original poster) at 12:41 AM on Aug. 11, 2010

  • There was a case back in the 90's where a man took his wife to court demanding she carry their baby..she didn't want it but he did... well he won and she had to carry it then when the baby was born she handed over the rights to her husband, whom she had divorced during the pregnancy.
    wheresthewayout

    Answer by wheresthewayout at 12:41 AM on Aug. 11, 2010

  • If you don't want a baby, wrap your pecker.
    Glamourina

    Answer by Glamourina at 12:43 AM on Aug. 11, 2010

  • the father's option is always condoms or keep it in his pants.

    while that baby is in the woman's body, it's her choice period. Until they find a way to make him carry the fetus, go through the hell it puts on your body and mental status, then give birth to the baby, he should have thought about it before the sex.

    and its always the mothers option to use birth control! or open her mouth and say put a condom on,why shouldnt the woman thought of that before having sex?
    mommy16love

    Comment by mommy16love (original poster) at 12:43 AM on Aug. 11, 2010

  • I liked the answer in the other question about if we give men the right to say NO to abortions, then that opens up giving them the ability to say YES and force a woman to get one.
    DarkFaery131

    Answer by DarkFaery131 at 12:43 AM on Aug. 11, 2010

  • And who knows Weather or not he had on a condom or not. Condoms dont always work. Or she could have said she was birthcontrol but lied or it could have happened even on birthcontrol. And its not just the guy that has the options of "keeping it in his pants" the girl also has the choice to "keep her legs closed" its a two way street people.
    Shani527

    Answer by Shani527 at 12:43 AM on Aug. 11, 2010

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