I have a friend who has TERRIBLE luck with men. She just throws herself at one after another, and never finds one that wants to be with her. She makes all the classic mistakes. Stalking him, not taking no for an answer, etc. Now I know the reason this is happening, she is about 60 Lbs over weight. I know it shouldn't matter, but it does. Men, especially in their early 20's, want to be with someone in shape and healthy. It just pains me to act like I don't know why she isn't having any luck. She tells me she met a new guy and she "just knows" he is interested in her even though she has asked him on a date and he says "okay, but just as friends". She thinks the mere fact that he is talking to her is enough to prove he wants to be with her. If he wanted to be with her, he would! She still insists that he is for some odd reason playing hard to get, but really wants her. How do I tell her nicely that she needs to move on?
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Answer by Scuba at 10:22 AM on Aug. 11, 2010
It may not have a thing to do with her weight. I would tell her that she needs to work on being happy with herself and who she is as a person. That will make her more confident and self-assured and those are the kind of women that real men who are looking for wives are really interested in. I would tell her that the kind she can attract with flirtatious actions and good looks are the kind that will always be looking for the next more exciting gal. You have the perfect opportunity to talk to her about the things that really matter in committed relationships, and it really has nothing to do with looks at all.
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