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Snack time

I give my son(he is 2) a snack before bed. If he does not eat his dinner should I still give him the snack? I'm trying to teach him that if he doesn't eat when i feed him then he doesn't eat.

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Asked by Anonymous at 4:12 PM on Oct. 6, 2008 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • I have been struggling with this too. I was so concerned about my son (21 months) going to bed hungry because he refused his dinner that I would offer him something else. But now I've put my foot down and dinner is dinner, and there are no other options. If he doesn't eat it, I assume he's not hungry enough. He never seems upset about going to bed hungry, and he's been eating his dinner more and more. It seems to be working! I think that giving them a snack after dinner or offering an alternative definitely does teach them that they don't have to eat what is being served. Good luck!

    Answer by hollierobin at 4:21 PM on Oct. 6, 2008

  • If he doesn't eat dinner, then there shouldn't be a snack given after dinner. You are not a short order cook, and should not have to make multiple meals.

    A child will not be harmed, by not having a snack.

    Answer by MommaLucy at 4:30 PM on Oct. 6, 2008

  • I agree with MommaLucy...give the child a choice for dinner and then close the kitchen. Snacking is not good habit to pass down to little ones.

    Answer by 1funkymomma at 4:50 PM on Oct. 6, 2008

  • I have 27 month old twin girls and believe me-once you start something it is hard to break but this is a that I think does need to come to a hault. Mine only get snacks in the evening between lunch and dinner. You shouldn't have to make extra food because he won't eat his dinner-your probably busy enough!

    Answer by aNdRiA570 at 5:12 PM on Oct. 6, 2008

  • If youre trying to teach him to eat what you make then by giving him a snack, you are being contradictory in your teachings. He knows hes getting a snack, so why eat? I have 4 kids in my house and they eat what I make or its no food until breakfast. They usually find something on their plates to eat. Same goes for the 2 yr old. He regularly refuses dinner. Hes not a big eater though and can easily wait until breakfast. Teaching means sticking to the rules no matter how sorry you feel for him. He won't starve.

    Answer by momofsaee at 9:34 AM on Oct. 7, 2008

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