i have always felt that a man would make me happy and was always in a relationship. i was looking for men or boys to fill that void that my father never filled. what they mean by this and being happy with who you are and being able to feel that you are just find without a man. when i realized that i found a great man but i was divorced for 12 yrs. it's taking it slow, living your life for you, setting goals, doing what you like to do and taking care of who you are mentally and emotionally. maybe becoming a better mother, devoting yourself to mother hood. maybe advancing your career or volunteering for those less fortunate. charity work or things that do not involve men in your life. there is no one place to find yourself or anyone thing you do that finds you. it's time and cherishing yourself and your life. the man should be an extension of you and not who you are with him.
at 5:03 PM on Oct. 6, 2008