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Do men like "good girls"? Need a little encouragement please!!

Because that's what I am! I don't smoke, I don't drink, my kids come first, I make good decisions and I don't sleep around. I'm coming out of a long, (10 years) loveless, (for the past 2 years) marriage and I am so much stronger for it and ready to date and get on with my life. I am so happy to be out of the situation I've been in and I'm not looking back.

I am who I am and if they don't love me for me, I move on. Worried that I won't find happiness again though because men will view me as "damaged" and because I have two young children. I am a strong, independent woman and I am ready!

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 11:27 AM on Aug. 12, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Overall and in the long run YES.
    QandA

    Answer by QandA at 11:29 AM on Aug. 12, 2010

  • Boys like bad girls, Men like good girls.

    They'll "play with" the bad girls, but they'll take the good girls home to Mom!
    justnancyb

    Answer by justnancyb at 11:35 AM on Aug. 12, 2010

  • Yep - they do like good girls.... men like to play with bad girls when they're single - but when men start looking to settle down, they love good girls. (at least that's what I've learned). You sound a lot like what I was like after my 19 year marriage ended. I had no interest in men, partying was out (I was too busy working) - and in all my "being good-ness" I ended up meeting the love of my life, THE guy for me; he changed my life, he made me wanna be a better person, and he loves me in a way that words can't even describe. So being good brought about a better relationship than I even hoped for (even though I wasn't looking for a relationship and didn't care if I had or found a man at all).
    ItsNotSoBad

    Answer by ItsNotSoBad at 11:37 AM on Aug. 12, 2010

  • I personally think men like good girls with a slight bad side. I know my DH likes "good girls" he really hates easy, partier type chicks. But at the same time, he likes a woman who can sit with him at a bar, or drink with him while watching football or at a baseball game. He likes a woman who can stand up for herself & others, he likes a woman who can stay out & dance all night at concerts. He likes that i am a goody girl, but in the bedroom...a baaad girl. He likes that i can keep up with him when he likes to go out & have fun, he likes that i enjoy a good dirty joke sometimes, he LOVES it when i swear if i am feeling extremely opinionated...he thinks it's cute...lol.

    Yeah, i think a good girl who can be bad SOMETIMES is what most guys like.
    samurai_chica

    Answer by samurai_chica at 11:39 AM on Aug. 12, 2010

  • BTW I've been with THE guy for 4 years now - married to him for 3... and I feel more loved every day. I'm happy. And it all came from being true to who I was and not compromising my standards. Being "good" brought about it's own reward and I can tell you, honestly, there's no need to second-guess yourself. Sounds like you are finally being true to yourself - nothing but good can come from that.
    ItsNotSoBad

    Answer by ItsNotSoBad at 11:44 AM on Aug. 12, 2010

  • After my divorce, I had 3 kids - one with special needs and never expected to find a man that would be willing to take that on (and figured if I did he would come with his own baggage). I drink only on rare occasions, don't smoke, don't sleep around and attend church regularly. I now am happily married to a man who had never been married, never had kids and is absolutely wonderful! It will happen when you least expect it - don't change to be what you think someone else might want, you would never be happy. Good luck!
    missanc

    Answer by missanc at 11:44 AM on Aug. 12, 2010

  • " A lady on the streets and a freak in the sheets" is what I've heard...LOL! Good Luck to you Mama!!
    motherofpearls

    Answer by motherofpearls at 11:46 AM on Aug. 12, 2010

  • Boys like bad girls, Men like good girls.

    They'll "play with" the bad girls, but they'll take the good girls home to Mom!


    DITTO THIS! This is exactly what my husband told me, lol. Hang in there honey, everything happens for a reason and the right man will find you when the timing is right. You always find them as soon as you stop looking.
    AshleyBDG

    Answer by AshleyBDG at 11:48 AM on Aug. 12, 2010

  • "This is exactly what my husband told me, lol. Hang in there honey, everything happens for a reason and the right man will find you when the timing is right. You always find them as soon as you stop looking."

    I agree totally! The right man just hasn't found you yet. He will.
    kathyartist2007

    Answer by kathyartist2007 at 11:59 AM on Aug. 12, 2010

  • REAL MEN love good girls. You'll be fine.
    figaro8895

    Answer by figaro8895 at 12:01 PM on Aug. 12, 2010

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