Do you have someone else in mind? Here's what I would do: 1). decide who the godparents will be 2). until you're ready to confront your friend, when she brings it up politely brush it off so as not to lead her on 3). once you're ready, sit your friend down and explain to her the reasons why you chose the ones you did, obviously without telling her you didn't think she could care for your child because that would be hurtful. Let her down easy. Tell her you care about her alot and you care about your friendship alot and you hope this doesn't change anything and she will always be a special person in your child's life regardless.
I find the best policy with friends is always honesty. If she can't understand your reasoning and doesn't respect your decisions, she might not be a friend you want anyways! Best of luck.
at 1:17 PM on Aug. 12, 2010