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Would You Do This???

Be friend with your ex and his wife not know...just friends nothing else???


Asked by mekarevell at 2:23 PM on Aug. 12, 2010 in Relationships

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  • No. If there's a reason he doesn't want to tell her, then it ISN'T as "innocent" as you might think. And it's disrespectful. Emotional cheating is still cheating.

    My ex fiance and I are really good friends. We like to get together and have a beer and hang out. He is married now and I am with my SO. But we would NOT be getting together if it weren't okay with everyone. That would be sneaky and dishonest and it gives the IMPRESSION of being up to no good.

    Answer by BuddyRoo at 3:08 PM on Aug. 12, 2010

  • Not w/o his wife knowing, no I wouldn't. I don't think there's anything wrong with being friends nothing else, but I do think it isn't right to do anything without telling his wife. It's an indication that something isn't right, even if it isn't on your end.

    Answer by FelipesMom at 2:26 PM on Aug. 12, 2010

  • I don't see why he wouldn't tell her.. But yeah, I'm friends with a few of my exs and I've never met their wives...

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 2:26 PM on Aug. 12, 2010

  • I am friends with my exs ex. He and I don't see each other. I love their daughter as she is my children's sister.

    Answer by KISS1224 at 2:26 PM on Aug. 12, 2010

  • Not without the wife knowing..unless I had something to hide.

    Answer by kimberlyinberea at 2:34 PM on Aug. 12, 2010

  • Not too sure, I guess I'd have to know somewhat the wife's personality is like. What she'd do or how would she behave if she did find out? Why can't he just tell her in the first place? May cause troubles, may not, depends on the state of their marriage and relationship I'm sure. Personally, I'd be a little upset if it were me.

    Answer by MyAngel003 at 2:36 PM on Aug. 12, 2010

  • No I would not. I would never want his wife to feel as if I cannot be trusted. I believe in treating people the way I would want to be treated. I would encourage us all to be friends instead. I just feel that when one is married, things should change some when it comes to this.


    Answer by SylviaNCali at 2:43 PM on Aug. 12, 2010

  • It depends on how serious the past relationship was.

    Answer by babynumberfive at 2:48 PM on Aug. 12, 2010

  • no. Why should she not know? He is deceiving her if he has a secret frienship. C'mon....put yourself in her shoes! How would you feel?


    Answer by samurai_chica at 8:15 PM on Aug. 12, 2010

  • No I wouldn't do that I think its shady

    Answer by whoreallycares at 6:13 AM on Aug. 13, 2010