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How to be a better wife/sahm?

I do my best but my dh doesn't think so :(
What the heck does he want from me...???

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:58 AM on Aug. 13, 2010 in Relationships

Answers (13)
  • you'll have to ask him that one sweetie.


    Answer by DarkFaery131 at 9:59 AM on Aug. 13, 2010

  • They usually want another Mother & one that works and pays bills too.

    Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 10:00 AM on Aug. 13, 2010

  • I guess all you can do is ask him exactly what he expects from you.

    Answer by matthewscandi at 10:01 AM on Aug. 13, 2010

  • All you can do is your best, and do everything with the love in your heart for them, if he doesn't see this it is his problem not yours. You should have him take over for a few days to see how quickly he changes his perspective!

    Answer by older at 10:02 AM on Aug. 13, 2010

  • it is really nice of you to want to give him more!
    honestly, i have given up. my husband would always want i am not going to stress over it anymore!
    i would say, wake him with ... you know!
    then cook him a hot breakfast.
    send him off to work with a smile.
    feed the kids clean the house, be sure the kids are happy, keep the house clean all day.
    tidy up the house
    have dinner ready for your husband when he gets home.
    bring him a beer and hand him the remote.
    bathe the kids, read them their bedtime stories and put them to bed.
    clean the house some more.
    offer yourself to your husband.
    i can't think of why any man would not be satisfied with that!

    Answer by happy2bmom25 at 10:02 AM on Aug. 13, 2010

  • sounds like a maid, nanny, girlfriend, and a prositute.... ew! ^^^


    Answer by kaylan010 at 10:05 AM on Aug. 13, 2010

  • prostitute*

    Answer by kaylan010 at 10:05 AM on Aug. 13, 2010

  • Yeah sorry just ask him. but approach him in a calm nice manner. Men shut us off when they think they are being attacked. Just calmly ask him if he thinks you need to do more, and what those things are. On another note, has he told you to your face your not doing enough or do you just think he thinks that? If she told you then you need to ask him what you could do to improve. If he didn't then don't worry about it. My DH tells me all the time if he doesn't comment then he thinks everything is great! I'm always wondering if he thinks I'm doing a good job. Good luck

    Answer by lovemybaby283 at 10:23 AM on Aug. 13, 2010

  • Maybe you two should sit down & make sure your in understand of what each other roles are in the house.. and this way you can make sure they are "balanced" ....
    My DH knows if Im a SAHM... I clean, cook. and generally take care of the home... And he makes the money..
    But the day I go out & have a job.... everything will be 1/2.... We both will have jobs.. We both will be responsible for washing clothes. doing dishes. cooking.. and so on...
    DH really doesnt want me working! LOL ... I think he rather me be home & he work than have to cook & do the dishes a few times a week. But he will sort the clothes and & do alot of other small stuff on his Fridays (he works 4/10s)

    Answer by MommaTasha1003 at 10:39 AM on Aug. 13, 2010

  • You need to ask him.

    I suspect that there are other issues here, and the two of you would benefit from marriage counseling

    Answer by rkoloms at 10:44 AM on Aug. 13, 2010

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