For you open adoption mommas. I am all for open adoption for my daughter with her birthmother. The problem is with the birthmother's older son. The son is 4 years older than my oldest and is mean. He is rude. He will push, shove, hit, use foul language, be disrespectful to adults, is angry and I just don't want him around my children. I am feeling very torn about this because I don't want to hurt my daughter's birthmother. I want to invite birthmother over for my daughter's birthday party next month, but she is going to want to bring her son. How do I have an open adoption with the birthmother and yet close out the son? My main job is to protect my children, and I will do so at all costs.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 1:29 PM on Aug. 13, 2010 in Adoption
Answer by PURPULbutterfly at 1:32 PM on Aug. 13, 2010
Answer by AllAboutKeeley at 4:07 PM on Aug. 13, 2010
Answer by doodlebopfan at 4:09 PM on Aug. 13, 2010
Answer by Iamgr8teful at 8:09 PM on Aug. 13, 2010
It's not often that anyone here agrees with purplebutterfly but in this case....
Talk to birth mom. She may talk to her son and make him behave, she may leave him with a sitter, she may say screw you love me love my son. I'm hoping for the former. But do ask yourself this, if it were your sister or SIL and the offending child was your childs cousin instead of brother what would you do then? Maybe that would be an honest guide for youself to figure out what to do.
Answer by onethentwins at 12:49 AM on Aug. 14, 2010
Answer by confused969 at 11:29 AM on Aug. 14, 2010
Answer by doodlebopfan at 6:56 PM on Aug. 14, 2010
Answer by san78 at 6:29 AM on Aug. 26, 2010
Answer by mekarevell at 2:33 PM on Aug. 27, 2010