i am get so fed up with my husband and him laying and sleeping on the couch everyday. so he goes to work and then comes home and takes a nap on the couch and then stays there until he has to go to bed. he wont get up unless we have something planned. he is a great guy but i need help on how to deal with this or how to fix it.
How many hours is he working? What kind of work is it? Is he depressed? Do you even talk to him about it, or do you just ask random strangers for advice?
Sorry, that sounded crass, but there's not nearly enough background on this question to give sound advice.
you need to build him up and not put him down by saying all you do s lay around all day. tell him how much you appreciate him working and how much that makes you feel secure. if you build him up he will want to spend time with you. if you don't care about him spending time with you and all you want is for him to help around the house. i think during the week it should all be up to you. especially if you stay home. thats the trade off for being a sahm. on the weekends he should help with chores cause after all your work never stops even on weekends. if you make him feel good about himself he will help out more even during the week and will pay attention to you. it's just like when you two were first together.