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How do I start the process of learning about adoption?

I have always wanted to adopt. My DH has always wanted to adopt. We have one biological child 6mo. within the next 2-3years we would like to adopt.
Where can I lean more?
Has anyone adopted domestically and can point me toward a agency?


Asked by lmt_mom2010 at 9:08 PM on Aug. 13, 2010 in Adoption

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Answers (9)
  • visit or go to and type in "how to adopt domestically" and you should get some pretty good answers. you might want to start now because its may take awile. i know some who say that adopting out of country is easier.

    Answer by Cajuntexan03 at 2:32 AM on Aug. 14, 2010

  • Read a ton of books as well as research with adoptive parents, adoptees ( adults), as well as first parents. Research agencies as well as processes...there are a ton of agencies and not all are ethical, and the processes are all different.
    International is not any easier than a domestic adoption as there are 4 layers of government to wade through rather than just one in domestic...also the waits are very unpredictable in IA..China is now running 4 years from the time a dossier is accepted to the time a referral is sent...
    Let me know if you have any questions.. I'm an adoptive mom to a little girl from China.

    Answer by mcginnisc at 1:10 PM on Aug. 14, 2010

  • In order to prepare yourself emotionally and mentally for this long journey, read all you can about the risks involved in adoption as well as the loss & grief that adoptees many times suffer. Raising an adopted child is raising a child who still has birth family. They don't just disappear when the papers are finalized. Read about open adoptions, talk to others who have adopted, who are adopted, and who have relinquished for adoption. What kind of adoption are you thinking about? There are pros/cons to domestic infant adoption (DIA), foster care adoption, and international adoption. Research them all. We started on the path of DIA, but then changed to foster care. Our adoption was final last year. Good luck and keep asking. No such thing as a stupid question, only unasked questions. Good luck! :)

    Answer by doodlebopfan at 8:48 AM on Aug. 15, 2010

  • Do a lot of research, on the internet, through books and talk with people who have adopted. Find out what type of adoption you are most likely to do. Do you want to adopt an infant, toddler. older child? Do you want to adopt from the USA? If you wish to adopt internationally first choose the countries and then read up on the requirements to see if you are elgible to adopt from that country. Also research the downside. Read about attachment problems, health problems etc... Be prepared. Go join a support group either online or in your area. Contact some local adoption agencies as they have seminars for prospective adoptive parents. Also considering adopting through a foster to adopt program through your dept. of social services. Good luck.

    Answer by Carly67 at 12:25 PM on Aug. 15, 2010

  • Ask your pediatrician and OB/GYN for resources too. GL

    Answer by elizabr at 4:53 PM on Aug. 14, 2010

  • Read lots of books, there are many good ones out there. A good adoption agency will post a suggested reading list for all the world to see. Our agency has one:
    Their resources page
    Their books/magazines/articles page:

    You may be able to find these books through your local library, and if they don't have it, they may be able to borrow it through inter-library loan. Good luck.

    Answer by TwoBrownDogs at 8:26 PM on Aug. 18, 2010

  • Educate yourself as thoroughly as possible. There are many differing views of adoption. Many adoptive parents and adoption professionals paint adoption in a rosy, hearts and flowers way. To thoroughly educate yourself about all sides of adoption, visit birth mom groups, adoptee groups and adoptive parent groups. Tread lightly in any birth mom group, and don't go there intending to look for a baby. Listen carefully for awhile before joining in the conversations.

    Hear position and negative stories about adoption. Visit Ethica, Evan B. Donaldson, American Adoption Congress and CUB sites.

    Answer by Southernroots at 11:57 PM on Aug. 19, 2010

  • google it

    Answer by san78 at 6:29 AM on Aug. 26, 2010

  • Go to your local foster center and im sure they can answer all your

    Answer by mekarevell at 2:29 PM on Aug. 27, 2010