I'm father. My baby girl is 2 months. She keeps crying until we pick her up; move her in forward and backward until she settles. She only likes certain position to be held in arm and no other way. Dr said: "Don't let your little baby bosses you two around like this?! I told my partner I believe, people around us can see we have been manipulated by our little one but we can't see it, my partner disagreed. She believes she tried it before, let her cried for at least an hour but not only baby not settled, and became more restless/stressed. She believes babies are different and one method would not work for all. She also stated last time she let baby cry, her sleep pattern became so messy and also vomited during crying. She believes we get there slowly. Are we spoiling our baby or should take it easy as every individual babies are different.
Answer by mom23plus12b at 9:55 AM on Oct. 7, 2008
YOU CAN NOT SPOIL AN INFANT!!! A child has no other form of communication then to cry. Studies show a lack of trust, that sometimes follows the child for the rest of their life, is built by letting baby cry. The more you attend to the cries in the beginning the less of a crier you have later. By attending to baby's cries immediately you build a trust with baby allowing baby to feel secure. Baby cries less because they trust that you will be there when needed. Here is a nice article about the subject. http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/articles/parenting/cfspoil.html
Answer by mama_l at 8:27 AM on Oct. 7, 2008
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Answer by matthewscandi at 9:07 AM on Oct. 7, 2008
An infant cannot manipulate parents. Infants aren't laying in their bed thinking, "Wow, how can I mess with mom and dad today?" Their goal isn't to mess with you, their goal is to get their basic needs met. You want to let your baby know that they can trust you. You want to encourage love and support. When a child has a good foundation (love, trust, security) they are more comfortable branching out on their own and finding their own independence. If they learn abandonment (which is essentially what cio is) they feel distrust and insecurity, making it much harder for them to take chances as they grow, thus actually making them more manipulative and dependant on mom and dad. Pedi's are for medical advice, not parenting advice. There's a big difference.
Answer by Ooftacat at 10:23 AM on Oct. 7, 2008
Hello, your baby is only two months old. There are reasons why she cries, if one of the reasons is to be held by you why not?? You are teaching her that you are there for her. Pick your baby up when she cries, she will only be a baby once!!
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